Second Thoughts

By OrnaRaz

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Personal essays about life : identity, women, widowhood, families, relationships, love, money and much more More

Best Friends Are Forever?
A Skype Mother
Blue Jasmine, A College Dropout Or A Gifted Anthropologist?
"Call The Midwife:" Nurse Matilda
Childhood Under A Magnifying Glass: Over-Parenting Revisited
How NOT to Write About Motherhood
Lot's Wife And The Danger Of Curiosity
Mothers and Mothers-In-Law: A Different Bridal Shower
No longer Arthur's Sister: The New Bat Mitzva
On Remaining Unpublished, or The Most Underrated Novelist of the 20th Century
She Is A Real "Womensch"
The Celebration Of The Middle Aged Widow: The Book Of Ruth
What Would Dorian Say? Or My New Gray hair
He Ain't Heavy... He's My Brother
Some Thoughts About The Choice of Being A Mother
"It Ain't Easy": The Fifth Commandment
What Is The Purpose Of Your Visit? About Friendships
When It Comes To Women Ambition Is Still A Dirty Word
IMA Is More Important Than
Instead Of Berlin? See Under Zoo Aretz Zoo
The Fall From Grace of Age 30 And Josef K
A Woman's Career And Bad Karma
The Eggs In The Gilded Cage
Breastfeeding In Public? Not In My Front Yard
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Furnishing The Dollhouse: A Lesson About Money
Facebook Power: From Clarence Thomas to Yitzhak Laor
The Long Line Outside The Women's Restroom: An Allegory
From Marriage Ban To Freezing Eggs: The High Price Of Equality
The Bad Luck Of Cancer Patients
The Jewel In The Desert: Phoenix Museum Of Musical Instruments
"I Beg Your Pardon?" My Foreign (Israeli) Accent
Is It Really About Love? Valentine's Day
"The Other Is [Not] Me:" Lack Of Empathy
Liking Barack Obama
Those Who Are Absent From The Seder Table
Roads I didn't Take And Public Transportation
The US Is A Foreign Country Or It Is Best Not To Know
"We Do Not Know What A Jew Is. We Only Know Men"
Bring Back Mother's Day
A Coal Stove In Auschwitz and Other Monuments
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How To get Rid Of A Middle Aged Casanova
"I'll Think About That Tomorrow ": The Comfort of Denial
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Lonely In Jerusalem
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Judging A Town By Its Library
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"Not every death is the end of a well lived life"
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Please Leave Me A Note: The Language Of Personal Notes
The Dangers Of Art And Ideas: Between Mike Leigh And Miri Regev
Two Lovely Misses: Together For Over Forty Years
Women And Aging: The Pnina Rosenblum Version
It's A Scary Thing How Quickly The People Closest To You Can Become Strangers
The Past Has A Vote And Religious Feminists
It's Time To Listen: Women Wage Peace
Who Needs The Israel Broadcasting Authority?
The Deception Of A Native Accent
A Friend In Need: Cancer And The Vanishing Friends
David Or Daveed: The Truth About Women Wage Peace
"When I want Something I Get It:" Benjamin Netanyahu's Desires
"I Am A Camera": Visiting Kiryat Arba And Hebron
Surely Erela Would Call You
The Fall of a Poet: Naim Araidi
That First Year: Coping Tips For New Widows And Widowers
Kind Neighbors, or A Young Reporter from Um El Fahem
My [Facebook] Home Is My Castle
Lord of the Flies Is Here: Israel 2015
See No Evil: "The Night In Question"
A Senior Intern: Stereotypes and Reality
Israel Conference On Peace and The Missing Parents
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Sour Grapes of Parents, Sons' Teeth and Chapter 2
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Novy God and the Kosher Shrimps
Electric Light Is the Most Efficient Policeman: Breaking The Silence
Small Towns In Texas And Personal Friends
The Most Important Profession In The world
The Power Of The Written Word: "Naftali Please Ban My Book"
How I Became the Enemy of Peace and Givat Haviva
My Mother's Wish
Kindergarten Children Under A Magnifying Glass
A Rabbi, a Pastor, and a Mensch
Rabin's Legacy and the Orphans
Black/Israeli/Palestinian Lives Matter
King Benjamin the First
Contempt Of Erudition And The Council For Higher Education
Don't Block My View With Your Disabilities: The Case Of Yonah Yahav
"Where Ignorance Is Bliss": Bashing The Whistleblower
The Sons Garden: Stepping on Collective Toes
We Still Have Choices: Cancer Patients and Their Families
Please Don't Tell Me Everything: A Mother's Viewpoint on the Big Trip
The Invisible Peace Activists: International Authors And Occupation
Facebook's Community Standards and the community
A Personal/Open Letter to Naz Shah
"Let Them Eat Cake": May Day in Haifa and the Mimouna
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On May 16th 1948 The State of Israel Was Born
Life Behind The Partition Of The Law School Graduation Gala
54 Years Ago Today: Eichmann's Execution And A Personal Tragedy
"People of the Book" Did Not Make The Top 10 List Of Literate Nations
For Positive Communication: Netiquette Revisited
For Father's Day: The Father As A Teacher
Ostracism and the Collaborating Daughters
The Face of Jewish Settlers In Hebron: The Sheriff
The Kid Who Ran Away from School and Children Books' Justice
Motherhood Revisited: In Defense Of Andrea Leadsom
Strong and Purposeful: Women Wage Peace

Ignoring Each Other? The Hirschsprung Family And The Smartphones

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By OrnaRaz

The portrait of The Hirschsprung Family, by the Danish painter Peder Severin Krøyer, was posted on Facebook,by Scott E. Bartner, with this amusing caption:

"How people ignored each other before smartphones"

Indeed the seven members of the Danish/German Jewish family in the painting, are gathered on the balcony, no one talks and they hardly acknowledge one another.

The two boys, leaning on the baluster railing on the far right, stare intently at something, which takes place in the garden beneath the balcony.The father stands at the center of the painting, next to his two older sons and the three of them read a newspaper. On the other side are the women: the mother and the only daughter. They are holding some kind of needlework on their laps, but they do not work. Instead, the girl is smiling at something beyond the scope of the painting. The mother gazes at the same direction, and she is also glancing approvingly at the girl.

Although they all are busy, the family seem connected. They are comfortable and at ease with one another. If that was "how people ignored each other before smartphones," perhaps it means that in a way it gave them more freedom. As we can see from the portrait when everyone is so preoccupied, no one pays close attention to what you do.

In 1881 when Krøyer painted The Hirschsprung Family, most of the members of the leisure-class, had both the time and the freedom to enjoy their money. Even the father, the strong man, symbolically positioned at the center, seems unhurried. Although Heinrich Hirschsprung was an industrialist, a tobacco manufacturer, he was not too busy to pursue his interests and became a patron and collector of art and even founded his own museum

I am well aware that, in some respects, life in the 19th century was hard, especially for women who had limited opportunities and no freedom to pursue their interest and to express their abilities.

But sadly in the Smartphone Age lack of freedom, together with lack of time, are a serious problem for almost every one. The smartphone itself makes it harder to ignore the torrent of demands which arrive via emails and messages.

Unlike Mr. Hirschsprung and his wife who seemed to have all the time in the world, their counterparts today, whom I wouldn't call "the leisure class" as leisure is such a rare commodity, are always rushed. They work long hours, take short vacations and are expected to be on call when they are away. Thus, even affluent people often don't have enough opportunities to enjoy their money.

Walking in Arnold Arboretum in Boston it occurred to me that I could easily imagine meeting the Hirschsprung family there. But on a beautiful weekend day I didn't see many contemporary families with children.

Perhaps the Arboretum, which does not offer playgrounds or other activities for children is no longer that relevant for today's families. With so little free time, they need to make the most of their time together, and long, leisurely walks along the trees become a luxury.

Besides, there are limited benches to sit together and ignore each other with the smartphone, especially as the internet connection in the park is so poor.

The essay appeared  in The times Of Israel

http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/ignoring-each-other-the-hirschsprung-family-and-the-smartphones/


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