Chapter 1: Tips to Slay Dating

                                    

                                          


                          
For the first chapter, we are going to talk about boys. This topic is widely discussed about but we rarely see some real talk on it. Get ready to listen to the truth, sister. are my top tips for dealing with boys, from one girl to another. (And I will be mentioning boys here, since that's what I am attracted to but this applies for girls or whoever else you choose to have a romantic relationship with)
                          


                          
Tip #1
                          
Work on your self confidence
                          


                          
If you want to be successful at dating, whichever form you want that to be in (free relationship, exclusive, one night stands); know your worth first. That being said, you can definitely be in a healthy relationship if your self esteem is low. However, it's better to be comfortable with yourself first, as this will save you a lot of time and energy, as well as help to ensure a happy relationship. Plus, you'll get that i-love-myself glow that's just irresistible.
                          


                          
Confidence is something that takes time to master and even if you do, you will still have some low days. But that's not an excuse for you to put yourself down, especially when dating.Having low self esteem will often get you in trouble. For example, it's easier for your partner to manipulate you and get away with being a complete jerk. That's because they know you will not call them out on it etc. 
                          


                          
In general, make wise decisions when it comes to your significant other. Boys come and go, but you'll have yourself forever.
                          


                          
Tip #2 
                          
Know what you want and don't be afraid to ask for it.

                          


                          
This applies to everything; what you want from your relationship, what you want in bed, what you want your partner to do and what you want them to stop doing. 
                          
If you are going to make things work, you have to be honest not only with your partner but also with yourself. We see countless of girls (and boys) saying they only want a fling when they have feelings for the person. Same way, they are saying they want a relationship when they are just looking to have some fun. You have to let the other person know exactly what you want from them. Don't agree on everything they say, in fear of losing them. That's unacceptable from a bad bitch.
                          


                          
Tip #3
                          
When they do something you don't like, talk about it.
                          


                          
That goes hand in hand with tip #2. If you are a bad bitch, you have to speak up about things you don't like. This might be your partner being rude to you or someone else. Or there might be an issue in sex. For example, they may do something that makes you uncomfortable or they may under perform. You shouldn't be ashamed to talk to the person you're with about this kind of stuff. At the end of the day you will find a solution together.
                          


                          
Whichever the case, there's one thing you need to do. Talk about it.  It doesn't matter if you just met, if you will never see each other again, or if you are at a lifelong relationship. All that matters is that you are confident enough to speak your mind. 
                          


                          
Also, the way they react to that criticism can tell you a lot about their personality. (of course, place your criticism nicely ladies) Use that trick to tell if they are worth your time. You don't want to be with someone who denies making mistakes or refuses to fix them. Trust me, that can be destructive in the long run.
                          


                          
Tip #4
                          
Demand to take what you give
                          


                          
That's another huge one. When being in a healthy relationship, you will not do all the work. Trust me when I say this. If someone wants to be with you or talk to you, they will show it. But what about "each person has their own way of showing love"? That's still true. Yet, if your boo ignores you, never text first or  initiate a date, then are they worth your time? 
                          


                          
All I am saying is this: If someone wants to be with you, they will meet you halfway. Always remember that.
                          


                          
Tip #5
                          
But also, expect to give what you take
                          


                          
There's this misconception that the guy has to spoil his girl and be happy just doing that. Of course, they should be happy for your happiness. They should love spoiling you or making you smile. But, you can't expect them to do all the work for you, no matter how much they love or care for you. 
                          


                          
You can't be a bitch to him (not the good kind) and expect him to treat your like a princess.That means that you have to spoil your man too sometimes. Buy him a nice present, wear his favorite color, compliment him, help him e.g clean his house or cook.
                          


                          
Be a good partner and you shall receive one, ladies!
                          


                          
Tip #6
                          
Find what works best for you
                          
Don't ever comply to what anyone else thinks you should be doing. That includes me.
                          
Society may say that you should get married young or older, stay single in your 20s. Maybe they advise you to fuck around during college years or spend your time studying. You are told lose or keep your virginity (i will touch on that topic another time), sleep with that many guys etc.
                          


                          
You can do any of these things, if you want. But don't ever do something, fearing you will get called a "slut", a "prude", "boring" etc.
                          


                          
If you want to be in a polyamourous relationship, be in one. If you want to have fuck buddies, have all of them. If you wish to get married at 20 because you have found the love of your life, DO IT. If you have decided to stay alone forever, dive into it.Just make sure that whatever you do, you are doing for the right reasons.