Jam Fool

Putting a bloody lace handkerchief in my back pocket to indicate that I'm into Victorian tuberculosis roleplay.

Seizing the Opportunity

You ever feel like your whole life came together to coalesce into one perfect moment?

(and yes I did repay his kindness in bringing us lunch during my recovery by slamming him with a once in a lifetime joke)

[Image Description - Comic, Six Panels. Panel 1: Robin is seated on the couch, looking tired, a blanket over her lap and a game controller in her hand. A burger sits on a wrapper next to her. Her spouse and a friend stand farther back by a counter eating a burger and fries. Robin speaks “Thanks for the lunch.” The friend replies, “ Any time. Is it alright if I ask what kind of surgery it was?” Panel 2: The screen of the TV where Robin is playing Dark Souls. She speaks from off panel, “Oh, it’s fine. I had an orchiectomy.” The friend asks, “What’s that?” Panel 3: Robin, grins and says “It’s sometimes called a bofa-ectomy.” Panel 4: Her friend looks puzzled and says “I still don’t…” Panel 5: Robin sits up and leans slightly forward, excitement in her eyes as her friend continues, “What’s a bofa-ectomy?” Panel 6: Robin raises her hands, eyes filled with starry excitement and a huge smile on her face as she takes a deep breath. SFX: INHALE]

we were talking about cats in the vc today

executive dysfunction tips! It gets easier to do a task if you dress appropriately first!! It’s much easier to get started once you’re wearing the right clothes for the headspace. For example if you need to clean your room, try putting on a maid dress! If you need to make dinner, try putting on a maid dress! If you need to accept visitors, try putting on a maid dress! If you need to poison the tea that will be served to your mistress’ esteemed guests in an effort to ensure her suitors never take your mistress’ hand from you, try putting on a-

Perseverance

Health insurance is not a provider. It is a denier.

people way underestimate the needs of wheelchair users.

there's a lot of what I'll call walkism (bias towards pedestrians and against wheelchair users) among disabled pedestrians (people who primarily walk, assisted or not, as their means of mobility)

diminishing our needs is walkism.

people within the community see us as ableds minus legs. they see our disabilities as simple- just can't walk, it's that easy. they see us as having low accommodation needs and as having the accommodations that we do need met. they see our access barriers as being as simple as ramps and curb cuts.

Something I wish "clicked" with a lot of occasional or part time wheelchair users is that obligatory wheelchair users don't have the choice to leave their chair at home when the terrain sucks or it's wet outside or whatever. I still remember a post where someone was asking how to manage keeping their legs dry in the rain because they had to choose to "suffer" walking instead because they couldn't tolerate having wet legs. And like, while the OP was not wrong for wanting to be dry, obligatory wheelchair users just have to deal with it and either have wet legs or never leave the house in the rain. We can't choose to walk even if it hurts and is hard to navigate in a wheelchair, we *have* to use our wheelchairs if we want to do the thing. It doesn't matter how bad it hurts or how hard it is to navigate those hills, we can't decide to walk it.

I'm not saying they're not trying hard enough or giving up or whatever ableist crap people give ambulatory and occasional wheelchair users, I'm glad they use their wheelchair to live a fuller life, I'm just asking people to remember that not everyone gets to make that choice.

(Using obligatory wheelchair user instead of "non ambulatory" because sometimes people are what I call "part time pedestrians" and still mildly ambulatory, but can't leave the house or do their ADLs without a chair. They deal with a lot of the same problems completely non ambulatory wheelchair users do.)