VIA Health Partners’ Post

When grief occurs in our life, it has a way of unravelling all the good both innerwork and outer work that we may have done and built upon. One of the ways to start is to give your self a (piccolo) small plaudit or praise/applause from the Latin word Applaudi. i call them pockets of Plaudits. Dictionary.com Plaudit An enthusiastic expression of approval.  Think of it as a way to build new habits and release old ones. If you did something new or good for yourself, someone else, or your home, give your self a piccolo plaudit. Look for the good, we dont realize how many applaudable things we do during our day. Let me provide a few simple examples, 1. Went to bed early, 2 Got up without an alarm and earlier. 3 Drank two glasses of water first thing. Exercised or walked for half hour, Organized a part of my life. Did a one minute plank, prayed, meditated. Ate healthy etc. I'm curious. Please share with me, or this page your Plaudits. You never know, you may inspire others.

Why remember? There will be a collective remembering this day that brings to back to our minds, our hearts and our souls a collective sadness, grief and trauma. It may seem counter-productive to bring up a memory that is enveloped with all things difficult, but it's in the remembering that we have the opportunity to pay our respects to those who were lost, to honour those who showed up to help and to serve as a reminder of just how complex this world can be and how in a moment it can change....everything. Flashbulb memories can stir up lots for us. If you are feeling things more today; be kind and compassionate to yourself and make space and time to honour the memory in a way that helps you move the energy in and through your experience. If nothing feels different 21 years later ~ that's okay too. Maybe keep space for others who have embedded the event differently for different reasons. Whatever comes for you today ~ is uniquely yours. Your memory bank in your brain may bring up the tough stuff that tragedy produces. A reminder to invite a look around the memory banks for what came out of that that maybe sharpened your gratitude pencil for what remained, what is good and how safeness and freedom in your life are foundational and to be cherished. What lessons has 9-11 taught you over the past 22 years?

Life after abuse can feel like a daunting chapter, but it's the one where you truly discover the depths of your strength and resilience. If you're yearning for a life filled with gratitude, compassion, and boundless love, it's time to take the first step. DM me the word 'legacy' and let's embark on a transformative journey together. As your HEAL Coach, I'm here to guide you towards a life that's not just about survival, but a life of purpose. The dreams you've held deep within, those goals that seemed out of reach due to past abuse, they're still within your grasp. Life after abuse means you have the choice to pursue these dreams, to tap into your incredible potential, and to craft a story that's uniquely yours. It's not just about you; it's about the legacy you leave for the next generation. Will you continue to live as a victim, or will you rise as someone who's reclaimed their life and now experiences the joys of life? Your legacy matters, and it begins with the decision to heal and invest in yourself. Together, we'll unlock the power within you and create a life that radiates with positivity, love, and boundless possibilities. #HEALCoach #LegacyOfHealing

The door of hatred. Recently, I had to work on closing that door in my life. What do I mean by that? Hatred in my life, I didn’t even think there was much of that there. But not true, it was still there. It was just under the surface. So learning how to close the door of hatred makes it harder for hatred to creep back in. That doesn’t mean that I will never struggle with it again. But it does mean that I am being proactive in working through it. So I had to go back and forgive people in my past, previous employers, and family. Why? Because if I didn’t, it would continue to slowly chip away at myself. You might have someone in your past that you can’t forgive, and as a result, you can’t even move on. Forgiveness sounds like reconciliation or sounds like you are letting the person off the hook. It is not that at all. Forgiveness is the simple act of you releasing the emotional hold that another person has on your life. You might be stuck thinking that you can’t forgive someone, but in reality, it means that you can’t move on and heal. Because you are still thinking about that person. The toxic person is still taking up free real estate in your mind. And you are not free. Why? Because you still have a door opened up in your life that says it’s okay to hate. Forgive so that you can be free. Will you be willing to close the door of hatred in your life so you can live a full life? If so, then comment “meditation” below. #Meditation #Hatred #mentalhealthawareness #Narcissism #BreakFree #toxicrelationships

Before leaving for work, my daughter handed me this card and told me I needed to take it with me. I didn’t know the difficult conversations I’d be having before I left the house, but I was grateful for the reminder to offer others grace and speak gently. We don’t know what others are carrying or going through, and the quickest way to resolving conflict or differences is through gentle speech. When we’re hurting, we want others to understand how we feel. We can do this one of two ways: 1- we can turn our words into weapons and hurt the other until they feel pain themselves. Pain begets pain. 2- we can speak gently and connect the other with our emotional state through a bridge of empathy. One method creates a domino effect of pain, the other, stops the cycle and creates space for forgiveness and healing. Pain is the language of fear. Gentleness is the language of love. What we feed will grow!🤙🌺

Life after abuse can feel like a daunting chapter, but it's the one where you truly discover the depths of your strength and resilience. If you're yearning for a life filled with gratitude, compassion, and boundless love, it's time to take the first step. DM me the word 'legacy' and let's embark on a transformative journey together. As your HEAL Coach, I'm here to guide you towards a life that's not just about survival, but a life of purpose. The dreams you've held deep within, those goals that seemed out of reach due to past abuse, they're still within your grasp. Life after abuse means you have the choice to pursue these dreams, to tap into your incredible potential, and to craft a story that's uniquely yours. It's not just about you; it's about the legacy you leave for the next generation. Will you continue to live as a victim, or will you rise as someone who's reclaimed their life and now experiences the joys of life? Your legacy matters, and it begins with the decision to heal and invest in yourself. Together, we'll unlock the power within you and create a life that radiates with positivity, love, and boundless possibilities. #HEALCoach #LegacyOfHealing

Sometimes it is easier to forgive others for their shortcomings than it is to accept our own. Part of recovery is treating ourselves as we would someone we love. “Having compassion also means offering understanding and kindness to others when they fail or make mistakes, rather than judging them harshly. Self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, failing, or noticing something you don’t like about yourself. Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with personal failings” - Kristin Neff At the dawn of this new month, we hope you extend yourself the same kindness and compassion you’ve shown the folks you love. For more helpful on forgiveness and self-love, click here: https://ow.ly/UaAO50QwRw4

#anger #emotions #emotionalwellness It's not the person, It's the Anger Speaks pain It's the Anger Breaks heart and things It's the Anger Destroy everything's But, once the anger is over, What's next? We get back the real person But the words, pain and broken things are still there How can we get rid of all these? .................................................................,............. So, please be mindful and filter your words and actions in anger. You do not have any right to shout or be rude to your mother, partner, daughter or even your employee. Be compassionate🤍 the act of compassion should not be same always.Don't reacting is also an act of compassion sometimes. It's a compassionate act for you as well as others 😁 It's not easy my friend. It's ok to feel angry. But, be ready to make a small change.Find out your own anger management strategies and Practice🤗 #anger_management #compassion #emotions

I was a master of holding grudges. When I felt wronged or disrespected, I could easily cut someone out of my life and, in theory, move on. However, I soon realized the heavy burden I was carrying from holding onto these grievances. The key words here are “in theory, move on.” Once we decide to cut someone out, the event and decision take on a life of their own. We carry this burden as long as we choose to hold onto it. Our lives are already chaotic enough without wasting precious energy on grudges, especially when the other person likely doesn’t know or care about what they did wrong. While we want them to feel our pain, they remain unaffected. Who’s really suffering here? Is it worth the effort and energy? Let go of the anger, hurt, or disappointment. Acknowledge they are who they are and accept this truth as a gift. Forgive them for hurting you and forgive yourself for being hurt. Be grateful you no longer have to deal with them and move on. You cannot change people or what happened. If they can’t see, understand, or accept how they hurt you, let it go. Embrace the truth, find healing in this reality, and release whatever you are holding onto. Life is too complicated and chaotic to waste time and energy on something you can easily let go of. #forgiveness #acceptance #lettinggo #healinginforgiveness #findingpeace

DROP THE PAIN BECAUSE THERE IS BETTER FOR YOU In life, we sometimes find ourselves in desperate situations, seeking relief wherever we can. Imagine a boy, parched and tired, sitting beneath a tree with no water in sight. Suddenly, he notices drops of water dripping from the tree. Excitedly, he collects the drops into a cup. Just as he's about to quench his thirst, a bird swoops in and knocks the cup over. Frustrated, this happens not once, but three times. In a fit of anger, the boy throws a stone and kills the bird. Moments later, he sees a venomous snake descending from the tree. The boy realizes that what he thought was life-saving water was actually poison, and the bird had saved him from a fatal mistake. Overwhelmed with guilt, he understands the true value of the bird's actions. This story reminds us that sometimes, life's setbacks are actually blessings in disguise. What we perceive as obstacles might be protection from greater harm. Just as the boy learned, we too must have faith that there is a bigger picture beyond our immediate frustrations. Reflect on the challenges you face. Could they be leading you to something better? Trust in the process and hold onto hope. There’s a higher purpose at work, guiding you away from harm and towards your true potential. #LifeLessons #TrustTheProcess #HiddenBlessings #OvercomingObstacles