“I hate it. I HATE it. I HATE IT!!”
I wrote this in my journal, almost pressing my hatred through from one page to the next, nearly 20 years ago.
I HATED my job. I hated the stress of my job. Hated the weight I was carrying. Hated that it was all stuck inside me.
But I was stuck.
And worse I didn’t know I was stuck.
And even worse I didn’t know how to ask for help.
Here are 3 (of many) reasons I got stuck because I didn’t know to ask for help:
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1. Farm living had taught me to ‘figure stuff out’. That’s how you kept tractors and trucks running, and livestock and crops living.
I didn’t know asking for help was important.
What was important was sticking with it.
Clearing weeds from fields with a machete in the summer heat, or grinding hundreds of tons of feed for the livestock in the freezing cold, dusty dirty, asthma inducing feed mill.
Sticking with it and figuring it out was valuable.
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2. I once heard my mom talk about self-sufficiency. Really she was talking about having a nice garden and not having to rely on ‘the system’ and what I got from hearing her talk about it was ‘if you want something done right, do it yourself’.
I didn’t know asking for help was important.
Figuring it out and being self-sufficient was valuable.
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3. When I started leading at an international charter airline in sunny Miami, Florida, I was 25 and leading 25 people across 3 teams.
I believed they’d promoted me because I ‘knew what I was doing’.
Leveraging what I’d learned early in life, I thought my job was to figure it out to keep things moving and do it myself.
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The problem was I’d never led people at an international charter airline before.
I’d never held people accountable before.
I’d never delegated before.
I’d never cast a vision.
I needed help, but hadn’t learned to ask for it.
I was stuck and didn’t know it. The only way out was learning something new from someone else.
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If this feels like you, ASK FOR HELP!
Find someone who you trust. Share and ASK FOR HELP!
Maybe you need a therapist. I did.
Maybe you need a mentor. I did.
Maybe you need a coach. I did.
Maybe you need a friend. I did.
P.S. Get vulnerable with someone who can take it. Ask for help.
P.P.S. 📷 is me growing some Christmas trees on my farm as I continue to learn to surrender and get freedom.
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2wWay to go team! How many bins did you get through Dana and Joey?