An experienced facilitator's thoughts for #transawarenessweek :
"You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, and then you read." -James Baldwin
For every transgender day of remembrance, I try to remember the giants whose shoulders I stand upon. All the trailblazers who sought to be themselves, and those who were discriminated, shunned, and had violence enacted upon them. It is an active memory, as we still have people today, becoming political refugees for who they are and being murdered simply for being; especially trans women of color. The world is filled with such bigotry, but as fellow trans people, we remain defiant to that hatred.
The world is in a rough spot right now, but the good things still shine out. Those giants who carved the path before me have made my life so much easier in comparison, and there is still much further work to be done. I can only hope that what little I contribute will make it easier for future generations to be themselves.
Having been the lead trans-feminine support groups facilitator for almost too years now, I'm lucky in that I get to see so many people blossom into their true selves, it's an awe-inspiring feeling that keeps me going. Especially when I feel like the position here at the TGRC is just too much, and I want to drop it all and walk away. Remembering the past and seeing potential futures keeps me grounded here.
When hosting these support groups, I often have trans people come in and have nothing to say. I ask them if anything is wrong, and they say some form “no, I’m doing good, and so I have nothing to contribute to the support group.” I have to remind them that we *want* to hear the good things and see the successes as well. Bad stuff happens (and it will happen for trans people), but hearing the good things helps us stay positive and have gratitude.
I find that trans people are much like the Phoenix. Oppression cannot stop us from existing, we will always be here by any means. Being queer is an act of love. Both for oneself, and an honor to those who came before us.
Leaving a link to the TGRCNM's donation page for anyone feeling monetarily generous.
This is a cool project. Congratulations to all involved!