There are a plethora of reasons I am not a fan of Brene Brown - she is not particularly relevant for communities of color or newer immigrant communities or those neurodiverse or with chronic illness or… That she is “surprised” by the opposite of “#belinging” is “fitting in” reveals how little she understands of experiences of those not mainstream nor in the center of the Bell Curve but an outlier.
Black women’s and girls’ hair as it naturally grows is called not fitting “professionalism” and “must” be chemically altered to “fit in.” Black women have known this all along and have lived what surprised Brene Brown.
Women and men with #neurodiversity or mask their realities or communication styles to “fit in.” The same is true for #chronicillness.
Personally, when, in a #medicaldirector meeting - I had been assigned the #BRCA guidelines to revise - where someone said something #ovariancancer was “the kiss of death” and later I shared I was being monitored for for an ovarian mass that could be #cancer to encourage others to be more respectful to patients and more sensitive, I was told by #HR that I had been reported to them for sharing my personal medical information that had made others “uncomfortable.” So, yes, rather than keep running afoul of HR, I shut up and fit in.
Also, those of non-European heritage are rewarded for “assimilating” and “fitting in.” Authentic self what wears “ethnic” clothes, brings “smelly” “ethnic food” to work, etc are not seen as belonging.
Literally, employers hire for “fit” and seek employees who fit in.
HR could do everyone a favor by acknowledging that the “#professionalism” they enforce is all about fitting in to pre-set standards, that are Eurocentric https://lnkd.in/gxghhzbj , ableist, etc and not for #authenticity nor #vulnerability. It is the Brene Brown advice that misleads by suggesting employees are not expected to fit in. If you want to get positive reviews, a bonus, a raise, and keep your job: yes, your job is to fit in as HR dictates.
The opposite of BELONGING is not exclusion... is "fitting in".
Check out what Brené Brown has to say about belonging and how important it is to not betray ourselves by "fitting in".
#belonging #belongingatwork #inclusion #HR #hackinghr
(Brene Brown: the opposite of belonging is fitting in).