Sales Leader @ WFX PLM - helping 100's of 🧵 Fashion Brands 🚀 | RevOps & GTM Specialist 🔥 | Fractional Sales Representative |
For years, I tried to apply business principles to my dating life. I was sure I could triangulate the perfect partner the way that I filtered out SQLs. What worked in sales, I thought, MUST work in life. 🤝👩❤️👨 Last summer, I worked with an intimacy coach. She looked at my list of qualities I wanted in an ideal partner (40% negotiable and 60% non-negotiable) and said, “You have this a** backwards.” Together, we worked on flipping that 40/60 equation. It switched something for me. Traveling full-time for the last 3 years, I had worked it up in my head that my ideal partner would be European. It was non-negotiable that my partner be multi-lingual, well-traveled, and had dated across cultures. Now I am partnered with the most amazing woman who checks all the boxes—except she was from the U.S. like me, and hadn’t lived abroad since college. If I was dead set on my original image, I might have overlooked her. Sometimes being a stickler for our goals can actually mean we miss out on our dream job, or our dream person, or dream deal. 💭 💘💰 So here’s your daily reminder to reevaluate your goals. You just might find more than you were looking for. #SalesLeadership #LifeStrategy
I don't think most guys would have overlooked the woman in this pic in a million years. 😂 But you bring up a great point, Michael Carr and this is rarely admitted on here or anywhere else: the non-negotiables in our own minds are often ridiculous to objective observers. Living in LA with basketball friends, I was convinced I needed a wife who was at least 5'9" to ensure giant kids - I really did - so I never would have seen her profile on Match.com. But thankfully she saw me and it turns out my dream girl was under 5'4" - and my daughters are giant in spirit and are amazing. PS I think this issue of over-thinking and putting up mental blockers applies to our career sides as well, which is ironic, considering that's what you had to originally get away from!
So happy for you Mike!!! Life turned out exactly how it was supposed to be :)
Congrats and you are so right!
Very happy for you Mike
Sales Leader @ WFX PLM - helping 100's of 🧵 Fashion Brands 🚀 | RevOps & GTM Specialist 🔥 | Fractional Sales Representative |
6dPS - This pic was taken yesterday, with my Dream Partner, at the beach Wannsee, a Lake at the Berlin city limits. We took the train almost 1 hour from our apartment and after enjoying the sun and the water biked through the Grunewald (Green Forrest) for an hour on the way home. Even thought it's already mid-August, feels like summer is just starting here.