Meeting people where they are might feel like we’re throwing darts at an unknown target and hoping for the best. Many people haven’t been taught this skill, often leading to the “golden rule” idea whereby they do for others what they wish people would do for them.
In a growing culture of inclusion, those of us who are neurodiverse and living with disabilities can often face very well meaning people who conflate the idea of inclusion with this golden rule idea. Some of my most frustrating experiences have been being infantilized and ostracized by institutions that explicitly espouse inclusion. This means my day might be spent proving that I am capable and advocating for accommodations, rather than being the fully creative, high achieving, and team-minded human that I am in places where I thrive.
These experiences often leave us feeling fatigued, masking or conforming, hiding the “undesirable” parts of ourselves, and focusing on surviving. We would love to be free to learn, work, and serve at our highest capacities, but burnout often leads us to change our environments.
If you are a leader dedicated to improving the retention of people who are neurodiverse and living with disabilities, here are a few ways that you can meet us where we are:
◾Ask us what we need to best learn, work, and serve
◾Listen actively and reduce personal biases
◾Respect our expertise and our accommodations
◾Modify your 1:1 communication styles to match ours
◾Be transparent with what you can and can’t provide
◾Communicate clearly about your expectations
◾Be flexible to a variety of ways for us to show up
◾Problem solve with us collaboratively
◾Be consensual and uplift personal autonomy
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Principal Researcher at Incomes Data Research
2wAppreciate this is a work-related forum but those final few paragraphs (reproduced below) would apply equally to schools, students, teachers, SEND provision and EHCPs! I hope the new administration will do something about this. *** Given that research suggests that 15%-20% of the labour force is neurodivergent and current diagnosis rates are nowhere near those levels, it is time to talk about capacity. The current model of waiting for failure and helping one person at once is inefficient. We need to flip the cost model and consider how we can flex existing work routines to be more neuroinclusive from the start. Managers try their best but they need permission to adapt environments, equipment and schedules as part of everyday performance. It is high time for a strategic, universal approach to neurodiversity at work. As theologian Desmond Tutu put it: “There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.”