As a gay person, this year I feel a need to be present but also aware that pride is every day for me and my immediate network. In the last number of years, I’ve led pride initiatives across the community and companies where I’ve held leadership positions in employee resource groups. This year is different. I feel a tinge of anxiety as Pride Month begins and see the immediate hyper focus on the community and question the true authentic nature of the efforts. I also am not in the leadership seat this year, and that’s okay. I’m a bit tired after years of leading efforts.
I know that sitting as lead of employee resource groups, the people in these positions truly care; give immense/unpaid effort to support their minority representation; and often burn themselves out this month with the immense expectations to lead panels, parades, lunch & learns, and community efforts.
I think one of the best things you can do as a member of the community, ally, or advocate during June:
- Thank your BRG/ERG leaders who generally do this work as a volunteer with budgets that require magic (and often require your leaders to pay out of their own pockets to make things work). Your leaders are up before dawn and attending events until dusk to represent you, the company, and the community. Remember, these folks are also doing the best they can with extremely limited resources.
- Show up to events you commit to attending. Try not to cancel last minute.
- If you work in HR or DEI, and you care about inclusion, this is a great month to show it by your actions and not just words of support. Remember, we get into these areas of focus to support people. We should want to show that support.
- Remember to have a holistic view of all of the intersections that make a company diverse and inclusive. Yes, it’s Pride Month, but how can you include everyone and amplify our message of community? It’s also a great chance to check yourself. Did you show up for Black History Month events; Disability Empowerment Events; and all of the other events the represent each diverse and unique community, as often times these intersections overlap. If we don’t show up for others throughout the year to amplify and support, we should take stock.
- Are you posting rainbows 🌈 without action? Or just to give the perception of support? While the community appreciates the rainbow merch and social media presence, if that’s the only action taken, it may be worth evaluating. We all have busy lives, but even small actions outside of posting a rainbow make a difference to people who truly want to be seen and heard and not tokenized. Also, remember that our planet needs a lot of love right now, so think about your swag and be thoughtful about it. Is it just going to end up in the garbage and pollute our planet in need of the love we seek?
Off my soapbox, but I wish everyone an immensely meaningful Pride Month. Be safe. Be present. Be inclusive. Be thoughtful.
Happy Pride 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️