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As someone who’s very online in disability advocacy spaces, getting comments about the language I use is inevitable. People correct me when I call myself a disabled person, or question why I dare to use the term “disability” at all. Each time, I try to patiently respond with an explanation, but I have to admit: it really takes a toll to have to constantly justify how I refer to my existence. I do believe people who try to tell me I’m using the “wrong” language aren’t doing so maliciously. So many of us have been socialized to understand disability as a terrible tragedy, as taboo, as something we don’t utter a word about. When someone who’s been taught to think this way hears “disabled,” they think it’s a bad word. I recognize that this mindset is so deeply embedded in our world that it’s a challenge to ask people to unlearn it. That said, I do have to wonder why anyone feels it’s their place to tell another person what words to use to describe who they are. This goes for any identity. Please don’t do this. If you have a disability, I respect whatever language you use to identify. If you don’t have a disability, you should extend this same respect to any disabled person (or person with a disability, if they so choose.) As for me…I am a disabled person. I consciously choose to use this language after a lifetime occupying this body of mine and continuing to understand my identity. Calling myself a disabled person is not a denial of my personhood; it’s a celebration of part of me. And I shouldn’t have to defend that. [Image: Dark teal background. Text: “I call myself a disabled person. The language a person uses to describe their identity is a deeply personal choice. Please don’t try to correct it.” Below is a logo of a wheel encircled by text “Words I Wheel By” and my handle, @EmilyLadau.] #DisabledAndProud #Disability #Ableism #DemystifyingDisability

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Oli Dierickx

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2y

We use our own language. We are so free to use our own words. And at the same time, are you OPEN to learn from others that our words could be our own limitations? Our own poisons? You are free to call yourself disabled, which means in my eyes that you are not able. So it means you are labelling yourself with a word full of limitations. If you would JUST consider to be open to see this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-HFmdTqtJSs&t=1578s "I am a disabled person" is so limiting because you are able of so many things. You just cannot do some physical things, and you can do others. Another video very inspiring https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBaYzwB86Q8

Marcie Abramovitch

MA JD | Lawyer and Notary Public

2y

Either choice is completely valid. In fact, in the UK disabled is the commonly used term and person with a disability is only used by the minority.

Douglas Flory CCMP

ACTIVE TALENT - Global Leader of Strategy, Change, Transformation, & Organizational Culture

2y

Perhaps an overlooked concept, but how did you include the visual description? Is that a manual process for you as author or is there another method? This: “[Image: Dark teal background. Text: “I call myself a disabled person. The language a person uses to describe their identity is a deeply personal choice. Please don’t try to correct it.” Below is a logo of a wheel encircled by text “Words I Wheel By” and my handle, @EmilyLadau.] “

Kelly Bron Johnson

IDEA Advisor Supporting Businesses to Create Completely Inclusive Workplace Cultures

2y

I wish we didn't have to keep saying this. I was invited to speak and had someone change all the words in my bio! Excuse me? It's *my* bio.

Aaron Fikayomi

Author || Ghostwriter|| Book Project Consultant || Digital Publishing || I help individuals publish their books and give a creative touch to your writing goals.

2y

Well, I'm still having a hard time embracing the word, "disabled" and it's great seeing people embracing the reality of it. I just feel it weird to identify myself as not being able to do anything. I guess I have this mindset because I didn't grow up with the disability. It started along the line and it's quite a challenge.

Pete Lindmark PhD(c)

PhD Candidate & Instructor specializing in Communication and Media Studies

2y

I’ve found that, almost subconsciously, I’m very picky with who I share my chosen identification with. I’m as candid as my students need me to be. I wouldn’t dream of that same openness with any of my superiors. I hadn’t actively thought about that honestly. Thank you for sharing your truth.

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Josh Winkler

Senior Advisor to the the Lt. Governor

2y

As a person who named his company Cripple Concepts, I agree 100%! That said, as part of my day job I often give feedback on language related to disability and do know how to code switch for mainstream audiences especially when the comments are being delivered by others who don't have disabilities.

Thor Osborn

Investigative Data Scientist / Operations Researcher / Mindset Challenger - PhD / MBA / CAP

2y

So this is fine. Call yourself however you like. But since everyone can do so, there will be a variety of labels in use. How should others refer to you? My preference is to avoid labels but sometimes that isn’t practical. For example, when filling out forms. What then, to avoid offense?

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Elaine KA

Inclusive Branding at Amazon | Columbia | Public Speaker building Community Partnerships for Impact Brand Purpose.

2y

Good for you for leading with compassion first!

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