Here's how you can analyze and reflect on your failures in conflict resolution.

Analysing and reflecting on failures in conflict resolution involves several steps. Begin by reviewing the situation objectively, identifying key moments and decisions. Assess your communication style, noting any missteps or misunderstandings. Seek feedback from involved parties to gain diverse perspectives. Reflect on your emotional responses and how they influenced the outcome. Identify any assumptions or biases that may have impacted your approach. Consider alternative strategies that could have been more effective. Finally, develop a plan for improvement, focusing on active listening, empathy, and adaptability to enhance future conflict resolution efforts. This process fosters personal growth and better conflict management skills.

Conflict is a natural phenomena whether in a small or big teams. There are many filters. Geologists are typically goal oriented and type "A" personalities. The second filter is the ethnic background. Some are easily slighted and egos are fragile. The third filter is the company culture. These 3 filters interact and depending the situation it range from being mild to extreme. If you are the head of the team you have to identify potential friction areas and try to anticipate. Emotions are raw and should be handled with tact and understanding. Perhaps let have the protagonists have a cooling period to digest the conflict in a sobering thought for not one is totally right but rather a mix of faults. Then try to arbitrate.

O ser humano é essencialmente sensorial, numa situação de conflito todos esses sentidos entram em estado de proteção. Reconhecer as emoções envolvidas dentro de um conflito, é um processo que passa por diversas etapa, como da percepção, que é estado de alerta, que provocam um sentimento, que desenvolve para uma ação, que de acordo com a resposta, pode provocar uma discórdia, mal entendimento ou escalada do conflito.

When we acknowledge the emotions involved, we pave the way for genuine understanding and better conflict management in the future. Emotions such as frustration or disappointment are natural responses to unresolved conflicts. By recognizing and understanding these emotions, we can identify how they influence our behavior and decisions during conflicts. For instance, if frustration leads to hasty decisions, acknowledging this can help us develop strategies to manage our emotions more effectively, leading to more thoughtful and constructive conflict resolution in the future. Additionally, understanding the emotional impact of conflicts allows us to empathize with others involved, fostering better communication and collaboration.

One thing to remember is you are responsible for managing your reaction to triggers, what triggers one may not trigger another. I have rejection sensitivity, can take things personally, and I know that's my issue and self-managing that is key. Always approaching from a positive position, and focus on the best outcome. Work on self-care during the day too, mini breaks, puppy videos on break, learn to manage your triggers, not them manage you. Watch your language, face and tone, a main trigger for anyone can be making them feel unheard or invalidating their issues. It will turn it to conflict fast! Remember RBF and RBV is real, self check it! Seek therapy -try EAP if you are unable to work past specific triggers that are impacting your work.

O conflito provoca dor porque não estamos acostumados a nomear nossos sentimentos para nós e para os outros (o que estou sentindo) é necessário compreender os aspectos emocionais para ressignificar as emoções (o que causa o que sinto) entender esses gatilhos direcionar a solução (como resolvo essa sensação). A mediação provoca o entender e controlar nossas reações, que é diferente de controlar nossas emoções.

1. Acknowledging Emotions: Recognizing emotions like frustration or anger when conflicts don’t resolve helps us understand their impact on our behavior and decisions. 2. Emotional Awareness: By being aware of our emotions, we can approach conflicts more rationally and empathetically. This understanding improves our communication and helps us address the feelings of others involved in the conflict. 3. Learning from Past Conflicts: Analyzing unresolved conflicts helps identify patterns in our behavior and informs better strategies for future conflicts. This reflection improves our conflict resolution skills and equips us with effective coping mechanisms.

A frase “ não controle a situação, controle sua reação diante dela” é a síntese da habilidade de analisar respostas. A falta da escuta ativa e posterior autorreflexão, consiste em círculo vicioso de ação e reação decorrente de uma progressiva escalada em relações conflituosas.

The fact is that I need to find in me, a way to resolve the conflict(s)that come about in my life and in the lives of others that may encounter me. I can't possibly resolve conflicts with others if i don't first look at myself and be straight about my weaknesses and my strengths. I'll have a lot more to offer others, in and out of the workplace, when I'm openminded, considerate, thoughtful and kind.

Toujours! Un pas en avant, une etape de plus que son interlocuteur permet de mieux cerner les faits.Ne jamais considerer une conversation ou une attaque comme personnelle une fois le plan ou la strategie est bien peufiner à l'avance, mais aussi maîtriser les lois juridiques y afférants relève d'un exploit d'un professionnel.