Your colleague is undermining your ideas. How can you maintain your emotional intelligence in this conflict?

Smile. Smile often. Teach them empathy. Otherwise, people swindle due to false ego. Ask them to help by collaboration. Differences are ok. Conflicts are not good. Celebrate. Go all together.

Always read a situation, asses persons body language and then suss out the thought behind someone’s words or actions. Most of the time answers lie in what someone’s body language then their words. Once you know what’s the intent behind the actions then always with a calm state of mind without getting effected and with clear intent respond. A smile and confident body language can win more battles then you can imagine.

One thing that I take solace in when working with colleagues' feedback is that their insights, no matter how packaged are always a gift. Recognizing that there are benefits that you can gather and utilize from your colleagues' feedback can potentially put you ahead of the curve if not realign yourself to the goal of the entire team at the very least. Nevertheless, keep in mind that feedback goes both ways and what's important is how you perceive them.

The first point for me to consider is, are they intentionally undermining my ideas or do they have a valid alternative? It is easy to get paranoid and mistake a valid argument for simple obstinacy. So, don't respond immediately, but take time to think before you speak! ("Dwell a pause of two marching paces," as we used to say in the navy!)

Conflicts in the workplace are inevitable, but how handle them can make all the difference. Recently, I encountered a situation where a colleague was constantly undermining my ideas. As frustrating as it was, I knew that maintaining my emotional intelligence was key resolving this conflict. I took a step back and analyzed the situation objectively. I actively listened to my colleague's perspective and tried to understand their point of view. Instead of reacting impulsively, I chose to respond calmly and professionally. By acknowledging their ideas and finding common ground, we were able to come to a compromise that satisfied both of us. In the end, this conflict taught me the importance of emotional intelligence in the workplace.

All feedback is positive feedback if you choose to use it constructively. The critique by the colleague might not be meant to be undermining, and it might not be you that they end up undermining anyway. Let me explain. First, if they are offering feedback, it is because they have noticed you enough to care. Second, they might have a point, and it causes your inner child to throw a tantrum - get over it. Third, if they have given feedback that isn't constructive to prove a point to a boss, they have just undermined themselves and their role in the team. In short, they have made themselves look like a dick. Therefore, whatever the feedback you have been given, see it as a win: win. You have the chance to get better or be the better person.

Vencer este obstáculo é necessário no nosso dia a dia, nos faz crescer profissionalmente e desenvolver nossa mente cada vez mais, aprendendo a lidar com situações difíceis. Buscar conhecimento na área é crucial para manter o equilíbrio da equipe no trabalho.

Ein wesentlicher Bestandteil emotionaler Intelligenz ist die Fähigkeit, die Absichten hinter den Handlungen anderer differenziert zu hinterfragen und zu antizipieren. Der KPU-Ansatz (konsequent positive Unterstellung) lehrt uns z.B., stets das Beste in den Intentionen unserer Kolleg:innen zu sehen. In Kombination mit dem BEYOS-Modell, das motivationsbasierte Lebensbedürfnisse beleuchtet und hinter das Verhalten von Menschen schaut, können wir tiefere Einsichten in menschliche Intrinsik gewinnen. Emotionsregulation ist dabei entscheidend, um ruhig und reflektiert zu reagieren, anstatt impulsiv zu handeln. Diese Herangehensweise ermöglicht es uns, fundierte Entscheidungen zu treffen, die ein positives Arbeitsumfeld fördern.

Navigating conflicts, especially when a colleague undermines your ideas, can be challenging. Maintaining emotional intelligence (EI) in such situations involves a combination of self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and effective communication. Here’s how you can apply these principles to handle the situation constructively: Self-Awareness: Recognize Your Emotions Self-Regulation: Manage Your Reactions Empathy: Understand the Other Person’s Perspective Effective Communication: Address the Issue Constructively Professional Boundaries: Maintain Respect and Professionalism Seek Support if Needed Reflect and Learn

Maintaining emotional intelligence when a colleague undermines your ideas involves several steps: recognizing and managing your emotions, practicing empathy to understand their perspective, and communicating respectfully using "I" statements. Seek feedback for an objective view, and focus on finding solutions rather than dwelling on the conflict. Throughout, maintain professionalism to safeguard your reputation and relationships. Reflect on the experience to learn and apply lessons to future situations. These strategies not only resolve conflicts but also foster a more collaborative and respectful work environment, strengthening professional relationships.

Remain calm and composed which helps in responding thoughtfully rather than reactively. Actively listen to their perspective, as their concerns might provide valuable insights or reveal misunderstandings. Communicate your thoughts clearly and assertively, using "I" statements to express how you feel without being confrontational. Aim to find common ground by focusing on shared goals, which can shift the discussion from conflict to collaboration. If necessary, request specific feedback to understand their viewpoint better and address any potential issues. Set clear boundaries to ensure respectful interactions, and document any ongoing issues as a precaution.

Always remain teachable. We are not all knowing and can always learn from other's perspectives. Understanding that will lead to keeping and objective mindset. If we have subjective/possessive thoughts, we tend to tie emotion to it and any feedback positive or negative becomes personal. The objective here is to remain somewhat removed and open to all levels of criticism. It builds character in the long run.

La inteligencia emocional te ayudará a analizar la situación de manera objetiva, evitando juicios precipitados o tomártelo de manera personal. No siempre nuestras ideas serán aceptadas, y eso está bien; lo importante es tener el coraje de expresarlas sin esperar aprobación. Haz preguntas abiertas a quienes tienen objeciones para ampliar tu perspectiva y descubrir posibles puntos ciegos. Si las objeciones son recurrentes y acompañadas de lenguaje verbal o no verbal poco asertivo, podría ser una señal de alerta. Usa tu inteligencia emocional para discernir y definir un plan de acción, que podría incluir una conversación exploratoria donde manifiestes tu sentir y hagas alguna petición que mejore la comunicación. #LiderazgoConsciente

Do not take anything personal. Share the data that backs your ideas. Find ways to get agreement to start a pilot together, even if progress is slower at the start and you might have to do most of the work. Keep pushing forward one step at a time. If it’s proven over time that your idea(s) are effective, you will get less resistance.

Esse tipo de coisa acontece muito no mundo profissional. É extremamente importante se manter firme propósito e objetivo em que se quer chegar.

Not taking anything personally helps you stay focused. Try and understand what can you learn from the situation. Take criticism as a feedback of the work done and not of yourself.

Whenever challenged about an idea or situation never let emotions or feelings get in the way of it. Instead with a calm mind address the facts and share data to validate your idea. No one can ignore data and facts, it also wins half of the battle.

Be open in your discussion with anyone who you feel is undermining your views or role. Clearly communicate that this will affect your performance and maybe the project. This will avoid adverse reactions.

I experienced a similar thing to this some years ago. Actually it was me, not them. I was presenting my ideas in a way that did not suit their preferences. Once I changed how I acted, and adapted to their personal style, it unblocked the situation and they moved to supporting my ideas. So start with yourself, and remember what you launch is not necessarily how it lands. Once you have done that, if there is still conflict, then give them feedback - stating the specific example of the objection and a clear statement about the impact of it. Ask what you can do together going forwards to resolve the issue.

One thing that always helps is politely ask the person to elaborate on their concerns. For example, “Can you explain what specifically you want to disagree with?” It is good to show that you’re open to feedback and can reveal whether their criticism is constructive or simply undermining.

La comunicación clara es clave cuando se trata de abordar problemas con un colega. Aquí te explico cómo hacerlo: - Identifica el problema y proporciona ejemplos concretos de la conducta que te preocupa. Evita generalizaciones que puedan parecer ataques personales. -Expresa cómo te sientes usando declaraciones como "Yo me siento..." en lugar de "Tú haces esto...". Esto ayuda a evitar que la otra persona se ponga a la defensiva. -Presta atención a la perspectiva de tu colega sin interrumpir. Asegúrate de entender su punto de vista antes de responder. -Usa un lenguaje respetuoso y un tono calmado. Evita las críticas destructivas. -Resume lo hablado para confirmar que ambos han entendido bien el problema y las soluciones acordadas.

When you are worked up you will never be able to articulate your points clearly. So best is always to take the time to stay calm and with a calculated approach using logic explain and even then if your colleague is budging remember not every battle is worth fighting. Choose your battles wisely

Seja comunicativo no seus ambiente de trabalho, mas saiba diferenciar amigos de colegas de trabalho! Amigos são aqueles que te apoiam em qualquer fase da sua vida, colegas são passageiros, pessoas que convivem ou conviveram, mas que agregaram algo na sua vida pessoal!

Keep communication concise and focused to minimize misunderstandings. Listen actively and ask clarifying questions to show you value their input. Seek common ground and emphasize shared goals. Clear communication and emotional intelligence can turn conflicts into opportunities for growth and better teamwork.

Explain the rationale behind your idea and your reasoning approach. Then they can help you to identify where your mistakes come from.

If you have a mentor, seek their advice on how to handle the situation. They can provide guidance based on their experiences and help you develop strategies for addressing the conflict. You could also reach out to 1 or 2 colleagues whom you trust and respect. They can provide a sounding board for your concerns and offer perspective on the situation. If the issue persists and affects your work, consider discussing it with your manager. Be specific about the behavior and how it impacts your productivity and team dynamics. Focus on seeking solutions rather than assigning blame.

Quando momentos de conflitos que não sejam resolvidos com conversa, busque sempre apoio, canal de ética e RH. As vezes não estamos sozinhos e buscar ajuda não nos enfraquece, só nos fortalece ainda mais como pessoa!

If your idea comes from a technical background, provide some support links or references that prove or support your idea. Use the power of digital media to add the details of your idea and present different aspect of that.

Reflect how well you managed your emotions and communicated during the conflict. Consider whether there were moments where you could have exercised greater self-awareness or empathy. Determine what you learned from the experience. Use these lessons to inform how you handle similar situations in the future. Based on your reflections, set specific goals to enhance your emotional intelligence. For example, you might aim to improve your active listening skills or practice patience in tense situations.

This article offers valuable advice, but growth sometimes requires pruning relationships. As Anthony Weldon said, "He that deceives me once, it's his fault; but if twice, it's my fault." Reflecting on your behavior helps you avoid repeating past mistakes. By using the tools from this article, you can adjust the dynamics of your relationships. In my experience, those who undermine often do so unknowingly or out of insecurity. By fostering empathy and supporting them, I’ve strengthened these relationships—though I always stay vigilant.

Always remember that if your colleagues do not care about you, they do not pay attention to your ideas. If they undermine you, it shows you are a strong competitor. If they just undermine your ideas, they give you feedback to grow.

One thing I try to remember in difficult situations is that, like the weather, feelings pass (if you let them). Try to separate the other person's behavior (over which you have no control, usually) from your feelings about someone else's behavior (over which you have complete control). Once you do that, you can assess whether or what actions to take in response to their actions, and begin to let go of the feelings. Just because someone tries to undermine you does not mean that your ideas lack merit. Often, it means exactly the opposite.

Avanzar sin rencor es un proceso que requiere intención y práctica, pero los beneficios para tu salud emocional y tus relaciones son inmensos. Acepta tus emociones, pero decide no dejar que te controlen. Practica el perdón, no para justificar a la otra persona, sino para liberarte de la carga emocional. Cambia la narrativa enfocándote en lo que has aprendido de la experiencia. Vive en el presente, dejando el pasado atrás. Practica la empatía para entender la perspectiva del otro y reducir el resentimiento. Considera una comunicación abierta para cerrar el conflicto positivamente. Establece límites si es necesario y cuida de ti mismo con actividades que fomenten tu bienestar emocional.