Here's how you can navigate personal feedback or attacks on your professional abilities.

1. Being professional means staying calm and responding in a helpful way, no matter what kind of feedback you're getting. 2. Listen Carefully. 3. Seek clarification 4. Ask questions to ensure you understand 5. Don't take personal/negative feedback personally (if they are not adding value to your work or personality).

Stay calm. Is it criticism (improve!) or an attack (ignore)? Listen to valid points & ask clarifying questions. If valid, develop a plan. Attacks? Don't engage, seek support if needed. Your worth is more than one interaction.

In my opinion, navigating personal feedback or attacks on your professional abilities requires composure and perspective. First, stay calm and don't respond defensively. Listen carefully to understand the feedback fully. Separate constructive criticism from personal attacks; focus on the useful aspects and disregard the rest. Reflect on the valid points and use them for improvement. Seek support from mentors or colleagues if needed. Maintaining professionalism and a growth mindset helps you turn even harsh feedback into an opportunity for development.

There is a very thin line that separates feedback and criticism. A feedback essentially involves the adult learning principles to be respected along with the lines of improvement. One cannot just trespass on someone's territory under the pretext of providing actionable insights. For example - If I have to emphasize the issue of a missed deadline, I need to first understand the reasons that could have perhaps contributed to it and then talk about what could have been done in this situation and what could be possibly done to avoid it in the future. We all need to hedge our positions as much as possible.

What matters the most in these cases is your perspective. Feedbacks need not be taken negatively, in fact feedback and Criticism can help you improvise and fill in the gaps.

Listen carefully to what is being said without interrupting. Ask questions to ensure you understand the specific points being raised. Look for constructive criticism that you can use to improve. It's okay to feel hurt, but don't let your emotions cloud your judgment.

Receive the feedback, even if it's hard to hear, breathe and sleep on it. Wait for the emotion to pass so you can clearly see the information received.

When someone choses to criticise you on a personal level regarding your professional skills, it is important to not react back. Choose to stay silent but give all of your attention while maintaining your presence in the moment. Do not interrupt them while they get out their frustrations. Humans tend to get back to normal soon after they are done venting and that is what you must wait for; Because only then will you be able to put forward your points with the entire context fully available for your purpose.

No one is perfect. Oftentimes, when an employee is given truly constructive criticism, it's best to listen to everything. Sit on it for a beat if you have to, but don't write it off immediately. Look at this as an opportunity for growth and understand that someone giving you this honest feedback means they respect you enough to do it in a professional manner. It's now your turn to do the same by listening and understanding.

Il est important d’ecouter et de lire pour évaluer la situation afin de déterminer la nature du commentaire : Est-ce une critique constructive, une attaque personnelle, ou un troll? Prioriser les Réponses : Les critiques constructives méritent une réponse, tandis que les trolls peuvent être ignorés ou gérés différemment.

Take some time to think about the points made and how they apply to your work. Get feedback from others you trust to provide a balanced perspective. Based on the feedback, set clear, actionable goals for improvement. Look for training, mentoring, or resources that can help you improve your skills. Regularly review your progress towards your goals and adjust as necessary.

If the feedback is not structured with facts and data, explore further with the person giving it so that the feedback makes sense and you can work on it effectively!

Ditch the defensive shield, don the detective hat! When facing personal attacks or feedback on your professional abilities, approach it as a learning opportunity. Step back, analyze the critique – is there a kernel of truth hidden within the attack? If so, acknowledge it and use it to identify areas for improvement. If it's purely an attack, detach emotionally and focus on facts. Seek clarification from the source or a trusted mentor to understand the perspective behind the negativity. Remember, growth often comes disguised as discomfort.

Make an objective analysis of the feedback received, regardless of who it came from. If you feel comfortable, share it with a trusted colleague to understand the points better. They can help you see things more clearly and reflect.

To build on what Unoosha said, the kernel of truth may be in the perception. I mention this below in a different answer, but I received feedback that it didn't look like I was paying attention. Instead of getting defensive - of course I'm paying attention! - I took a step back and considered what might make people think that, and from there I was able to move forward.

This is all about context. If this is something coming from your supervisor, it's important to accept their statement and thank them for the feedback. Clarification applies here as well; ask more questions about what they're getting at. If this is unsolicited feedback from a colleague or an external party, the best response may be no response.

Receive feedback with active listening. If you don't want to share anything at that moment, just listen. Everyone has their own pace for absorbing things.

Crafting a response needs to take time, especially in a professional set-up. It works because you also have all the time to get an appropriate response back to the person as both of you will have to continue being in the same place. Acknowledge, articulate and responde. There is never a need to raise your voice to appear dominant... Dominance is best asserted when you appear to be the calm one in a thunderstorm. :)

Consider what might be behind the feedback to create a plan to move forward. I was told (not very nicely) that it didn't seem like I was paying attention in a meeting. There were two things at work there. I am someone who takes in information, mulls it, and often has feedback after the fact. That means that I'm often taking a lot of notes, which means I'm looking at my computer, and also that I may not have immediate contributions to the topic at hand. I've learned to let people know proactively that I'm taking notes, and also to speak up, even if it's to say "that's really interesting, let me keep thinking about that." It was important to understand why the feedback was given to create a plan.

When receiving feedback or criticism from your manager, it's important to handle it constructively without letting it impact your confidence. Here’s how: Don't take it personally: Feedback is about your work, not you as a person. Your value isn't tied to one piece of work and everyone has areas for improvement. Express gratitude: Say, "Thank you for letting me know," or "I appreciate you bringing this to my attention." This shows openness to learning and helps build a positive relationship with your manager. Ask for specifics: Request details on what didn’t meet expectations or how you can improve. Be proactive: Propose solutions or ask for suggestions on improvement. This demonstrates a growth mindset and professionalism.

Take feedback in the spirit in which it's meant. By that I mean that if someone was meaning to be hurtful and rude, then forget it and let it roll off of you - but, if someone was trying to be constructive and helpful, then it is worth reflecting upon.