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Life's A Chibi: False Reflection
A Life's A Chibi commission for 
darastrixthedragon
Its difficult to believe in yourself. There are times when you don't know who or what you are, so you rely on other people's guidance to point you in the right direction and to also to say what they see in you that you don't. These times are fragile as you will listen to everyone but yourself. So being lost in a fog of self doubt and with no direction, you listen to others on what they think about you and tell you what you should do. Sometimes, the feedback you are looking for isn't as positive as you might have hoped for. People will make fun of you, tell you to give up, tell you to jump off a bridge, etc. They point out flaws that you don't see and make you believe that they're there. When the negative criticism are louder than the positive encouragement or guidance that other tell you, your viewpoints about yourself change to something that makes you feel uncomfortable, lonely, miserable and depressing. Even if some try to help you to block out the harmful comments from others, you still believe in them and generate a depressing mental mirage of yourself.
Throughout life, people will point out your flaws and will say nothing positive about you. There are people that will go out of their way to make sure you are miserable by poking fun at things that bring you joy and make fun of your physical appearance they believe to be disgusting. Constant barrages like those can do a lot of harm to one's metal and physical state to the point where they see nothing but the bad things about themselves. They don't care about the damage they are doing to you or about you. They just enjoy seeing others suffer and make you feel like they know more and better than you know about yourself.
You must believe in yourself. Stay strong. You need to have a strong mental fortitude about who/what you are. Only you know who you are and what you can do. No one has traveled though life in your shoes but you. You alone have the ability to change who you are to whatever you see fit. Those who wish to bring you down when you are lost or in a high state of positivity and feed you nothing but harmful vibes, try your best to block them out. You are YOU and you know what is best for you. It's your life. Be strong and confident about yourself. Don't let other's negativity change who you are. Be happy and confident about yourself. There is only one of you, so be the best version of you as much as possible.
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darastrixthedragonIts difficult to believe in yourself. There are times when you don't know who or what you are, so you rely on other people's guidance to point you in the right direction and to also to say what they see in you that you don't. These times are fragile as you will listen to everyone but yourself. So being lost in a fog of self doubt and with no direction, you listen to others on what they think about you and tell you what you should do. Sometimes, the feedback you are looking for isn't as positive as you might have hoped for. People will make fun of you, tell you to give up, tell you to jump off a bridge, etc. They point out flaws that you don't see and make you believe that they're there. When the negative criticism are louder than the positive encouragement or guidance that other tell you, your viewpoints about yourself change to something that makes you feel uncomfortable, lonely, miserable and depressing. Even if some try to help you to block out the harmful comments from others, you still believe in them and generate a depressing mental mirage of yourself.
Throughout life, people will point out your flaws and will say nothing positive about you. There are people that will go out of their way to make sure you are miserable by poking fun at things that bring you joy and make fun of your physical appearance they believe to be disgusting. Constant barrages like those can do a lot of harm to one's metal and physical state to the point where they see nothing but the bad things about themselves. They don't care about the damage they are doing to you or about you. They just enjoy seeing others suffer and make you feel like they know more and better than you know about yourself.
You must believe in yourself. Stay strong. You need to have a strong mental fortitude about who/what you are. Only you know who you are and what you can do. No one has traveled though life in your shoes but you. You alone have the ability to change who you are to whatever you see fit. Those who wish to bring you down when you are lost or in a high state of positivity and feed you nothing but harmful vibes, try your best to block them out. You are YOU and you know what is best for you. It's your life. Be strong and confident about yourself. Don't let other's negativity change who you are. Be happy and confident about yourself. There is only one of you, so be the best version of you as much as possible.
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It makes me want to just hold her and stroke her head and try to dry those tears away... tears of which I've shed and felt far too many times in my own life to not still feel a poke of pain when I see them in others..
Those kind of tears I would wish only upon the worst enemies of whom have utterly no moral compassion and only hold within them a heart full of hate..
Those kind of tears I would wish only upon the worst enemies of whom have utterly no moral compassion and only hold within them a heart full of hate..
oh my gosh..... I hardly ever comment on anything here unless purchasing art, but MAN this hit so close to home for me. This is very well done, and very to the point. Being someone who has the same struggles, I just wanna say thanks for making this. <3 ;////;
The unfortunate part is that both are absolutely beautiful.
I agree 100% sadly I think just many people don't see the beauty that is themselves because it is clouded with the hate from others, and low self esteem.... ; ____; </3
i disagree. however, do not misinterpret my opinion, i do consider both very hugable.
Its gravity that does this to me. That, and shirts, vests, and any other clothing that goes around my giant belly.
It's funny this is like Andy Friscella with what the 75 hard is meant to teach you
Mental Toughness
Mental Toughness
but on the other hand, people with anorexia have the exact same view in the mirror, even though people say otherwise
Unfortunately, some of the worst of those negative voices live in our own heads.
Sadly this is something that I experienced during my childhood right up to adulthood and it's impacted me even though I'm almost 40. Tbh I'll never see myself as anything but an ugly waste of space :/
If you're an ugly waste of space, then...how come many in this community likes you? D:
> Tbh I'll never see myself as anything but an ugly waste of space
If you keep saying that, you won't. Every one of us is just a story we tell ourselves. If you don't want to feel like a waste of space, stop saying you will.
If you keep saying that, you won't. Every one of us is just a story we tell ourselves. If you don't want to feel like a waste of space, stop saying you will.
Yep, that how it be.
The key of course is to learn to be a better judge on whom you listen to about such things. But most of us don't have the ability or opportunity to do that during our formative years.
On the plus side, people are out there who will value you. Just gotta listen for those voices amongst the static.
The key of course is to learn to be a better judge on whom you listen to about such things. But most of us don't have the ability or opportunity to do that during our formative years.
On the plus side, people are out there who will value you. Just gotta listen for those voices amongst the static.
Subtle things make the difference. Change your environment can be helpful as can taking up new hobby and sport. The issue with humans is we enjoy symmetric and asymmetric patterns. Science generally has proven old philosophies right. Keeping a organized routine with some alteration tends to increase happiness. Yes it takes a while but you get there
I may be higher functioning but I still have mental problems. lot of people just dont get it. just cause I get money from the government and have my rent discounted doesnt equal EASY life. what goes on internally is a struggle. sometimes its like krieg from borderlands. just trying to keep sane.
people are always jerks with others while they do that only that to make THEMSELVES feel better...jerk move for sure.
Free hugs for everyone who goes through this. Cruel people make my blood boil, which means I give extra warm hugs to those who need it.
If they can't accept you at your worst, they don't deserve you at your best. Sometimes you just have to walk away. It's a big world and there are undoubtedly many in it who will appreciate you for who you are.
This such a strong message I very plz I have ready. All way keep that chin up my friend
It feels worse when it's society's ideals they keep echoing, or rather a by gone era that should have never been but just keeps hanging on to torture and harm people because they believe "it's for your own good."
A tear goes out to all the kind and gentle souls who had to endure this, in whatever shape or form it might have taken.
You're a complete cutie pie, darling. You're beautiful the way you are.
I notice how whenever people are satisfied, they don't express that much. I look at critiques and they're often deeply worded with colorful expression even if it's all negative. But if it's showing appreciation, there's fewer words to say. Heck we even have more words to express things negatively than we do positively.
When people like something, they hardly say anything at all. It's only when they have a problem do they speak up. Which can make someone feel like their existence is only being acknowledged when they do something wrong.
When engaging with something positively, it should be more than a "good job" or leaving a like. There are personal feelings, ideas, and perspectives to share. Ways to inspire others and yourself; riding ideas and creating new ones rather than only taking the role of a passive audience. Social interaction should not be a performance analysis. It's kind of no wonder that the only thing that seems to matter is self-worth.
Always having to prove ourselves as our only means of existing among others. This is made worse with the internet having become a battleground of clout and celebrity especially for many coming seeking a career out of it.
When people like something, they hardly say anything at all. It's only when they have a problem do they speak up. Which can make someone feel like their existence is only being acknowledged when they do something wrong.
When engaging with something positively, it should be more than a "good job" or leaving a like. There are personal feelings, ideas, and perspectives to share. Ways to inspire others and yourself; riding ideas and creating new ones rather than only taking the role of a passive audience. Social interaction should not be a performance analysis. It's kind of no wonder that the only thing that seems to matter is self-worth.
Always having to prove ourselves as our only means of existing among others. This is made worse with the internet having become a battleground of clout and celebrity especially for many coming seeking a career out of it.
been there, done that. ripped the t-shirt from my body in tears.
This is why I watch this artist. and would ask how much to commission a Morphic Unicorn in a wheelchair. (amputee, left leg above the knee. )
This is why I watch this artist. and would ask how much to commission a Morphic Unicorn in a wheelchair. (amputee, left leg above the knee. )
I went through a lot of this when I was younger. People would talk about me a lot; being the youngest of three brothers, I wore a lot of hand me down clothes (no style), I wore glasses (nerd), I loved to read books (weirdo) and I had my own ideas of what was cool or interesting. This made them look down at me because I wasn't one of the cigarette smoking, class skipping, trash talking 'cool kids', and... I was ok with that. This was in part because when I was *very* young, I had tons of friends who thought I was pretty cool, and my mom had always raised me not to take shit from people, or listen to them when they tried to put me down.
Still it had an effect over time, and I responded by retreating into myself. It took until high school to realize that I really didn't care, and to just stop trying to either hold myself away from others or to try to conform to whatever bullshit mold they thought I should wedge myself into. Oddly enough, this made people start respecting me a lot more, and even to try to become friends with me.
The fact of the matter is, just accepting yourself isn't quite enough. You have to accept a few things about other people as well. Know that not everyone, even your closest friends, know what's best for you, and that there are concepts in the world of who you should try to be that are just that; concepts. Who you should be is who you *want* to be, no more and no less.
Now, finding who that actually is... that's a story for another time. x3
Still it had an effect over time, and I responded by retreating into myself. It took until high school to realize that I really didn't care, and to just stop trying to either hold myself away from others or to try to conform to whatever bullshit mold they thought I should wedge myself into. Oddly enough, this made people start respecting me a lot more, and even to try to become friends with me.
The fact of the matter is, just accepting yourself isn't quite enough. You have to accept a few things about other people as well. Know that not everyone, even your closest friends, know what's best for you, and that there are concepts in the world of who you should try to be that are just that; concepts. Who you should be is who you *want* to be, no more and no less.
Now, finding who that actually is... that's a story for another time. x3
Come on, you're cute! Try not to listen to others' criticisms. Do what you think is best for you. [ ]
I wish I didn't need that sack of flesh, organs and bone to survive. If I didn't, I would have left it long ago.
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