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Its been a wile, but i got to experience something quite odd. Something that i thought is gone in the world, as i never really saw it much or delt with on a day to day basis. But thanks to the magic of World of Warcraft and some random guild, it became something i was damn near confronted with. And that thing is: Toxic masculinity.

Almost everyone i have talked with, chatted with, or even befriended for an extended period of time was never even close to it. Even being in the fandom itself! Being the nomad i am, i have got to live in quite a number of states, and houses, and towns. Work at many many different jobs and types of jobs. Even those that i would have thought would of been prime candidate. His name was Grant, he worked at the double tree with me. Was 6'2" and around 220 and was an armature wrestler. He was kind, gentle, and very respectful to everyone around him. He was my favorite of all the coworkers i had there. So from my life views and even my life bubble, i had never even got a whiff of it. Sure i would see it in Vines/TicToks and Youtube and stuff. So i knew it was a mind set that was out in the world, but i thought it was rare! Untill i joined this guild~

Being in the discord with these "Chads" was down right painful at times at just how bad hearing them "just mess around" was. The word Bro was unironically used no less then 5 times a min. Telling someone that they are trash, or garbage, or a shithead, over and over. So even when i got "cool" with everyone, i started to really poke and prod with some deep questions. When i called the guild "a guild full of Chads" they would giggle and almost enjoy that fact. It made me really wonder if they just have zero self awareness or being a Chad is what they aspired to be! I was just at a loss with them. There was 1 or 2 ppl in this guild that mostly played a long just to keep the peace, but that to me showed how bad things had gotten.

I even asked a few of them, if we got together at a bar in Vegas for like a guild meet up. Would you hug anyone. I got a big "naaaaa~" from most ppl. I asked this question because of how my life is with the fandom and others i meet in the fandom. A hug is normal! Its like our handshake, but it shows a level of trust and intimacy that i would never get with anyone in that guild, save for maybe 1 or 2 others. But there was 1 thing that i was shocked at! My icon in discord is my furry self. And i can remember in the middle of the raid when we where setting up for a boss, one of them ask "hey Kai (my in game name is Kaimetsu) are you a furry?" Now im an odd person, and i love questions that might start a topic of debate, or even deep personal questions. I am awesome at dealing with them. So i said with zero hesitation "yes i am". And there was a few seconds of silence that followed, but the guy who asked the question had one of the best replys ive head in a long time "ahh ok cool. I like it when others dont hide who they are". I got asked a few other random questions about furries and stuff, as i was cool with them and i was more then happy to answer questions. But thankfully, i am no longer in that guild because they server transferred no joke, yesterday. So it was a nice way to leave all that behind. I did end up sending personal msgs to those few in that guild that was good to be around.

But now that i am free from that bro soup, i really hope that anyone doesnt have to live anywhere near that social sub set. It was awful. Is there anyone that does? How do you deal with that? Do you try and fit in and shit talk others and bro your way out of stuff?