You might be onto something here.
But there are other ways to express bonding and escaping from the rigidity of your job/life. As i said, some of these scenes are fine in concept but they stretch too far and become too graphical, it feels out of place and messes with the pacing for no benefit.
Sex is an overdone resource is what i mean, i understand that these men are sex-driven and connect that way, but that is no reason to compromise the fluidity of the experience.
And you want to talk about "gay guy who's been through shit" You wanna do assumptions!?
Look Patty: just because you gave sloppy head to a 60 year old grandpa that couldn't even get hard in a piss-drenched public restroom when you turned 18 doesn't mean you "know what being gay is like" and you've "been through shit" It means that you have a twisted vision of sex warped by porn and empty hookups that made you think that men want nothing but a hole from you. And because of that you make stupid connections to deny that you were used and you were never really wanted.
You ain't no deep shit, you ain't no better than me, boy. You're a loser, like all of us.