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AITA for saying I should be the top in the fanfiction written about me?

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Alright, let me preface this by saying I (43M) am not going to tell you who I am. I doubt literally any of you would know anyway. That said, I have some notoriety for reasons out of my control, and someone made me aware recently that fanfiction has been written about me and my brother and friends. Like… a lot of fanfiction. And I know I shouldn’t have looked at it, but one day I was stupid, and I did, and I was… disturbed.

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r/AmItheAsshole · Posted by ReleaseTheKraken 5 hours ago.

AITA for saying I should be the top in the fanfiction written about me?

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Alright, let me preface this by saying I (43M) am not going to tell you who I am. I doubt literally any of you would know anyway. That said, I have some notoriety for reasons out of my control, and someone made me aware recently that fanfiction has been written about me and my brother and friends. Like… a lot of fanfiction. And I know I shouldn’t have looked at it, but one day I was stupid, and I did, and I was… disturbed.

There are a lot of reasons I was disturbed. For example, there was a shocking amount of incest (and the NAME of the ship implies they KNOW that it’s incest and don’t give a shit), and some furry type shit, and just… anyway, I was telling my BF about it and bitched about how weird it was that in pretty much every fanfiction, no matter the pairing… I’m the bottom in the relationship. Look, I'm not saying the guy getting dicked down is the girl, but. I feel like most writers seem to think so??? These people write me to be super weepy and submissive, when in reality, I have perfected the single tear. They write me to need constant protection, when I literally have military training and handle myself more than fine (I am literally SIX ONE–sometimes THEY WRITE ME TO BE SMALLER THAN I AM IRL TO SUIT THEIR PERFECT VISION–I AM TALLER THAN MY BF AND THEY WILL MAKE ME A WHOLE 6 INCHES SHORTER THAN HIM). They write me to be shy and socially awkward when I am the most outgoing goddamn person in our group by a WIDE margin and they will make my irl INCREDIBLY socially awkward BF a sex god who can get anyone (including my MALE character) pregnant by looking at them (which is probably the worst thing I found out of everything, because where does the baby come out??? Out of my dickhole????) They write me to have a MEDICAL NEED to be submissive in bed???? LET ME BE A MAN WHO FUCKS MEN NONE OF THIS THINLY VEILED GIRL MASQUERADING AS A MAN KIND OF THING.

There was one time I thought I was opening a story about me and my brother when we were kids but NO it was my ADULT brother in DIAPERS. DON’T even get me started about the most popular tags involving my brother. I can live with me and my BF being diagnosed with mental problems and being outed as having a panty kink in the most popular tags about me, but why are so many of these tags about my brother related to his genital region? I don’t know if I’ll ever stop seeing the horrible words I read singed behind my eyelids, haunting me.

Idk why these people hate me so much that they wrote me to be so vulnerable and weepy??? (And also to get injured and sick all the goddamn time). Anyway, the BF says I’m being “heteronormative” (whatever THAT means in this context) and implied that I was trying to emasculate HIM by implying (though I didn’t SAY this) that he should be the bottom. AITA?

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defenestratenotpenetrate699 points · 5 hours ago

“I enjoy fucking men but being the bottom? Idk I think that’s a little too girly and gay, which means YOU should do that instead of me. Don’t you agree, BF who I assumedly have penetrative sex with?” YTA.

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PM_ME_BLANKIES555 points · 5 hours ago

The jarring mix of OP being vaguely misogynist but also seeming homophobic but actually being totally fine with his character being written to fuck dudes… just as long as he’s the top and not written as the “girl”... Yet he does have a panty kink and is fine with that being written about. Also, don’t be an idiot, OP. If there’s fanfic written about you… I get morbid curiosity, but don’t read it. YTA for what you said to your BF. Also, get therapy.

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FuckBCBS369 points · 5 hours ago

He didn’t just read one either. Seems like he read the whole goddamn catalog.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP-30 points · 5 hours ago

I’m bisexual, dude. But I am also a MAN.

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FuckWalgreensGimmeInhaler66 points · 5 hours ago

Being submissive has nothing to do with being a man or a woman.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP5 points · 5 hours ago

I’m not saying it does. I’m not expressing myself well here. I have been dominated by… many women… and I enjoyed it thoroughly. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) But there’s a PROBLEM with writing me the way they do.

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Shitposts9788 points · 4 hours ago

“I can’t believe they write about me being dominated” “I like to be dominated” What exactly is the common thread in all the contradictory issues you have?

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plsnoasbestos69 points · 3 hours ago

You seem like a total sleazebag. YTA.

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abatementspecialist520 points · 5 hours ago

Not submissive? Your post history says otherwise.

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CandyCaneChris400 points · 5 hours ago

For everyone… ever… don’t click on OP’s profile. Especially not if you’re at work but also just if you value your eyeballs.

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CinnamonToastCrunch168 points · 5 hours ago

I learned about fetishes I never knew existed. I… need to go sit down.

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PM_ME_DUMB_STUDENTS78 points · 5 hours ago

But… the cars and the… it… I… wha… j… I-

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coughdropsareuseless22 points · 5 hours ago

I thought I had seen it all. I was wrong.

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EroticaEnthusiast-10 points · 4 hours ago

Link?

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PM_ME_IF_YOU_WANT_TO_BUY_MY_PIANO29 points · 3 hours ago

r/eyebleach

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ChildcareDiseaseControl500 points · 5 hours ago

As a rule, I don’t support RPF fanfiction. It’s way past acceptably parasocial and into… “just no” territory for me. If this was you versus a fanfic community it would be N T A. But it’s about you and your BF. Your comments do lead me to believe you need therapy for the internalized misogyny and homophobia on display here, and your BF’s conclusion that you want to make him the bottom so you can somehow preserve your own perceived dignity at the expense of his own is reasonable. YTA.

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AirPlantArtEnthusiast399 points · 5 hours ago

Bro, NTA, and the answer to your questions?

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koushixinfei360 points · 5 hours ago

Frequent commenter in r/pegging claims that he shouldn't be the bottom in the fic written about him. Okay.

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thoudothprotesttoomuch200 points · 4 hours ago

“I’m not submissive.” Okay, dude who posted 1 year ago in r/sex about not liking being on top and wanting girls to ride him because he likes when they “take what they want” from him.

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RedditObserver155 points · 2 hours ago

The panty thing is also real (NSFW warning for OPs profile). I like how being the bottom is too feminine but not wearing panties. That, he’s fine with.

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havesomeshame99 points · 3 hours ago

I can’t believe OP posted this from what is obviously his porn account…

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itakepictures55 points · 3 hours ago

especially being of enough notoriety to have fanfiction written about him and knowing how likely it is Reddit will figure out exactly who he is and then everyone on the planet will know his porn history.

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SpillTheTea81 points · 3 hours ago

I await the moment that Reddit recognizes this man’s penis or a mole on his leg and then articles get written about his posts in r/BDSM, his love of hentai, and his panty kink.

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DeuxMoiReader38 points · 3 hours ago

This is totally going to come out as a blind item in the near future, if Enty or Lainey haven't already posted about him.

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canwenot18 points · 2 hours ago

Enty makes shit up.

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EyesOnHollywood10 points · 2 hours ago

Nah, some of his blind items are wrong, but he’s definitely got the inside scoop.

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ProudLoverOfLove44 points · 2 hours ago

Maybe the whole post is bait for an OnlyFans…

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Madman2126 points · 2 hours ago

This post is absolutely an ad. It’s way too transparent.

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i_compile_your_worst_moments290 points · 5 hours ago

Click OP’s profile to see posts of him wearing panties (from a sub that shall not be named). Also: YTA lmao get therapy this is hilarious.

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angelofvictoria66 points · 4 hours ago

There’s a subreddit for men in panties??? …Asking for a friend.

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HermanMillerChairFreak150 points · 4 hours ago

I'm trying to think of which boy band member has "military training"...

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BTSFORLIFE200 points · 4 hours ago

South Korea has mandatory military service.

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2022brokemyheart288 points · 4 hours ago

The BTS members are disbanding right now to do military service. This guy is certainly no BTS boy.

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gosolarbeforenem3144 points · 4 hours ago

He says he’s not that popular though. A not super popular boyband member with military training…

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fakeplantdoctor96 points · 4 hours ago

I was thinking a streamer. Have you seen CORPSE X Sykkuno fanfiction? One of those dudes doesn’t even show his fucking face.

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DeskChair196877 points · 4 hours ago

It’s popular with Dream too (BEFORE he face-revealed). Idk what people’s problems are honestly.

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standingdeskenthusiast45 points · 2 hours ago

This dude is 43, he ain’t in a boy band.

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WiiModMax120 points · 5 hours ago

INFO: Do you and your BF have penetrative sex? Who prefers what?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP20 points · 5 hours ago

We switch. But I’ll be honest: I do often prefer bottoming… though not always.

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WiiModMax6 points · 5 hours ago

I’m so confused by you it’s not even funny.

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lampgate195 points · 3 hours ago

You need therapy.

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BohoEsthetic663 points · 4 hours ago

“How DARE they write me as the bottom” “I prefer being bottom” WHAT are you on???

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP10 points · 4 hours ago

Look, all I’m saying is the bottom should clearly be written to be more tough and stoic than the top, if anything. Just because you take it up the ass doesn’t mean you cry all of the time and need protecting??? In fact, doesn’t being able to get railed mean you’re tougher????

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InsufferableAudiophile16 points · 4 hours ago

Yes, everyone who bottoms has iron insides.

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NoLotionInKleenex10 points · 4 hours ago

You know what. Fair point. I’m a woman but I’m gonna start making this claim.

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PM_ME_CHICKEN_SOUP_RECIPES8 points · 4 hours ago

You can’t even decide what you’re arguing about anymore. You have severe issues with… something. I don’t know what.

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chapstickhater3 points · 3 hours ago

OP not even a reddit armchair psychologist is bold enough to diagnose you. You need a good therapist… bad.

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lavalampmaker5 points · 3 hours ago

You’re just too bogged down in all of this, man. Just let it go and forget the fic exists. It sucks to have things that violate your boundaries written about you, but it comes with being a public figure. Don’t let your BF bear the brunt of all of your discomfort. You clearly are just looking for some way to say that your BF is “weaker” than you either mentally or physically, and there’s no reason to think about your relationship that way or worry about how others perceive your relationship.

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Poptartz989 points · 3 hours ago

Did anyone see this post where he asks if he’s TA because he always gets his boyfriend to take out the spiders? I don’t know how to break it to you, but babygirl, you are NOT manly.

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PennyForYourThoughts21 points · 3 hours ago

Why is it “girly” to be afraid of bugs? My boyfriend makes me take out the spiders and handle his fishing bait, but I don’t go around questioning his masculinity.

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Relationshipsbaffleme6 points · 3 hours ago

…why is your boyfriend fishing in the first place if he’s afraid of a worm?

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PennyForYourThoughts2 points · 2 hours ago

He’s trying to get on my dad’s good side.

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weedsintheattic118 points · 3 hours ago

Let me guess: they ship you with your brother?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP134 points · 3 hours ago

WHY. IS FANDOM MADE UP OF ONLY CHILDREN. IS IT BECAUSE THEY DON’T REALIZE HOW DISGUSTING INCEST IS (HOW???).

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goldenlions56 points · 3 hours ago

Nah, I know writers with siblings who ship incest. Also, incest is more mainstream than you think. Check out Game of Thrones.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP123 points · 3 hours ago

I DID WATCH GAME OF THRONES AND NO ONE SANE SHIPPED CERSEI AND JAIME.

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JustJoinedFreeFolk90 points · 3 hours ago

Yes because all the sex that happened in GOT was so socially acceptable. Also, check out Game of Thrones, it's like you're a sadist or something.

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JoffreyApologist-60 points · 3 hours ago

But that’s the thing–it’s fanfiction. Also, the first seven seasons were good...

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whatthefuckhappenedtotyrion75 points · 3 hours ago

But OP is real. RPF is a different breed. Also, the finale was such a trash fire that it doesn't matter how good the first seven seasons were. And ngl, S7 was a tire fire too.

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GranolaMom8364 points · 2 hours ago

LISTEN UP YOU ASSHOLE, I DON'T CARE HOW UNCOMFORTABLE RPS MAKES YOU, YOU ARE GOING TO SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP AND ACCEPT YOUR FANS PERFORMING FREE LABOR TO BOOST YOUR POPULARITY. ALSO, STOP YOUR KINK SHAMING. STOP IT RIGHT NOW. I SWORE I'D RIP OUT THE THROAT OF ANYONE WHO TRIED TO KINK SHAME MY GIRLS AND LET THE BLOOD SPURT OUT OF THEIR NECK.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP101 points · 2 hours ago

MY GOD WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU. PEOPLE, DO YOU SEE WHAT I HAVE TO PUT UP WITH. THIS WOMAN IS CLEARLY DINGO-ATE-MY-BABY CRAZY.

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MixerNixerFixer86 points · 2 hours ago

You need to chill. RPF is clearly a violation of boundaries. Just because someone is a public figure, doesn’t mean they don’t deserve dignity.

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PowerMod7955 points · 1 hour ago

Okay, but… diapers?

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BabyBOY7 points · 1 hour ago

Don’t kink shame.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP49 points · 1 hour ago

I RAISED MY BROTHER THE LAST THING IN THE WORLD I WANT TO FUCKING DO IS CHANGE HIS FUCKING DIAPERS NOW THAT HE’S THIRTY-TWO

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VanillaRSexPoster3 points · 1 hour ago

It’s completely harmless. It may not be for you, but whatever.

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AccuracyIsImportant54 points · 3 hours ago

This is giving me "men reading Anne Rice vibes" and I'm HERE for it.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP136 points · 3 hours ago

I’ve actually read that post before, and I can confirm that most fanfic writers, like Rice, DO NOT understand how male genitalia work. Nor do they seem to comprehend that a refractory period exists.

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slashwriter6748 points · 3 hours ago

You forgot “spit as lube”... for anal.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP27 points · 2 hours ago

THAT IS BARBARIC.

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Casualviewer12138 points · 2 hours ago

Dude, totally NTA. Look, don't let it get you down, man, the fanfiction and shipping community is THE most toxic community you can find online. Shipping makes no sense to me; I guess some people just like smashing Ken dolls together to make them kiss. It's bad enough when they do it with fictional characters, but when their craziness spills over into reality? It's a cry for help.

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moldbegone23 points · 2 hours ago

I read a manga series where some of the fans are obsessed with a non-canon ship that is INCREDIBLY problematic. There was actually some good fic, but it was overwhelmingly… bad. Fangirls ruin everything.

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WalterLord15 points · 2 hours ago

…Good fanfiction?

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DemiGriffith36 points · 2 hours ago

Uh… it does exist.

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twicewrappedbranes-12 points · 2 hours ago

Spoken like someone who’s never read fic in their life.

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WalterLord3 points · 2 hours ago

I have. I read some a long time ago on Fanfiction.net.

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ConnoisseurOfFics5 points · 2 hours ago

That was your mistake. Fanfiction.net is a trash heap.

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leetcoder3142 points · 2 hours ago

Any website ending in “.net” is a trash heap.

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WalterLord1 point · 2 hours ago

I take offense to that.

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TheFermionSea9 points · 2 hours ago

Oh here we go again with redditors hating on fic because it’s something women happen to write and read most often. Fangirls preserve the longevity of your story. Also–men do write fic too.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP25 points · 2 hours ago

Also, what is up with all the rape fics? Is it not enough to write my BF shoving his whole fist into my ass? Does this need to happen with me shackled to a bed in his sex dungeon as well? AND WHY DO PEOPLE KEEP WRITING ABOUT MY BROTHER DOING THIS TO ME? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE???

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PopcornInHand17 points · 2 hours ago

This sounds familiar… I’m pretty sure I read this fanfiction

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP10 points · 2 hours ago

YOU SICK FUCK

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TiramisuSnob6 points · 2 hours ago

This actually DOES sound familiar, but the fic I have in my mind isn’t a RPS fic? It’s based on a fantasy novel?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP7 points · 2 hours ago

I REITERATE: YOU SICK FUCK.

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aspiringeconomist20 points · 4 hours ago

What I’m getting is that OP isn’t necessarily upset that people are writing fanfiction about him (although this, to me, would be very reasonable, given that he’s the one being fetishized), but rather, he’s upset with the sheer number of OOC fics being written. AND I CAN 100% GET BEHIND THAT. OP, you are SO NTA for calling out the OOCness that is no doubt plaguing your fandom right now. Look, people, if we don’t weed out the bad writers, then they’ll drive out all the GOOD writers– this is Gresham’s law. Bad money drives out good, bad fics drive out good, bad writers drive out good. OP I HAVE YOUR BACK ON THIS.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP5 points · 4 hours ago

That… is not what I meant at all, but thanks for the support. But since we’re on the topic of OOCness– I seriously do not get the appeal of AUs. Sure, I’m usually not getting my ass reamed in unspeakably brutal ways in those stories, but I’m also unrecognizable– it’s like the writer just borrowed my likeness to write someone completely different, except that Dean doesn’t look like me either, because he’s either six inches shorter or has a pussy! What the fuck? Also, why is my boyfriend usually very rich and Russian in these AUs? The man’s broke– I’m the breadwinner, always have been and from the looks of it, always will be. The rabid desire for him to be a member of the Russian mafia is SUCH a head-scratcher; every time I see him sporting a last name that ends with "nic," I know I’m in for a wild ride.

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ChocolateToast8 points · 4 hours ago

For someone who doesn’t like these fics, you sure are indicating that you’ve delved super deep into the available literature.

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WalterLord9 points · 4 hours ago

literature

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DemiGriffith4 points · 4 hours ago

Once again–there is GOOD fic. It exists.

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TheBlackSwordsman5 points · 4 hours ago

Your username…

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Shoukong88816 points · 2 hours ago

Aw, OP, that just means the girls like you! The bottom is the favorite.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP20 points · 2 hours ago

BUT WHY???

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Shoukong88812 points · 2 hours ago

Because they want to comfort you. Also, because they’re living vicariously through you.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP8 points · 2 hours ago

HURTING ME IS THE OPPOSITE OF COMFORTING ME. ALSO, WHY DOES ANYONE WANT TO LIVE THROUGH ME? MY LIFE SUCKS ASS.

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brokecollegestudent2 points · 1 hour ago

Uh, you’re getting fanfiction written about you. I bet you’re loaded.

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WritingWithSensitivity15 points · 2 hours ago

NTA. I think a lot of the YTA comments are coming because OP explained himself poorly, so let me clarify a few things: OP is bisexual in a relationship with another man. He actually prefers being the bottom in his relationship usually and openly admits to having a panty kink and being into submissive play. However, what he’s trying to say is that fanfiction authors are writing him as if his preferences feminize him. They are doing what (lbr–often cishet writers) do and forcing heteronormativity and gender roles on a homosexual relationship, because they don’t know how to write a relationship where one partner doesn’t take on a traditionally “feminine” role. This speaks to a lot of author’s issues not just with homosexual relationships but also with hetero ones. They just always need a submissive partner.

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ALoftyPigeon13 points · 2 hours ago

Agreed, but you also might be reading into it too much: Most of this is just porn. They write one person to be submissive because it’s kinky. Like… medically necessary submission? Pregnant men? That’s kink.

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ThePurityPolice2 points · 2 hours ago

Doesn’t mean that what’s being written isn’t extremely problematic.

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letsbereasonable6 points · 2 hours ago

But that’s very subjective.

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Batfamwriter7 points · 2 hours ago

Sometimes it’s just authors working out their issues with gender roles through fics. It’s harmless.

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Antishipping11235-3 points · 2 hours ago

Excuse me– it’s fetishization. Smh at what people will excuse just to get their rocks off.

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Rob162910 points · 1 hour ago

INFO: OP, would you prefer people to write fics where you buttfuck your boyfriend instead?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP12 points · 1 hour ago

NO. I DON’T WANT PEOPLE WRITING ABOUT ME AT ALL. Also, there are fics where I’m the top? And I get whiffs of, uh, truly venomous hostility aimed towards me in those fics? And feel vaguely like a human dildo when I read them?

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Rob162922 points · 1 hour ago

Okay, but WHY are you reading them??? In enough depth to get how they’re characterizing you even? If you’re a public figure of any sort, you should know this just isn’t healthy.

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InquiringMinds3699 points · 1 hour ago

INFO: OP, why do your fans know about your panty kink? That seems like a really private detail to give out, even if you’re a public figure?

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THE_AUDACITY12 points · 1 hour ago

This dude is probably a porn star who gets railed for a living and here he is complaining about written porn.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP7 points · 1 hour ago

I don’t work in the porn industry.

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goodbyenetflix5 points · 1 hour ago

A model then? Who… models panties?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP3 points · 1 hour ago

NO.

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wherearethegirlbands2 points · 1 hour ago

So, boy band member whose panties rode up a little during a show and everyone caught a glimpse of your kink?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP2 points · 1 hour ago

…not really, but let’s go with that.

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disgruntledgradstudent6 points · 2 hours ago

INFO: OP, where are you getting your ship stats?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP5 points · 2 hours ago

The drop down filter on AO3?

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disgruntledgradstudent5 points · 2 hours ago

Okay. So you’re really relying on the tags.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP5 points · 2 hours ago

Should I… not? There’s also a blog post out there with a statistical analysis of the ships THAT I WON’T LINK BECAUSE I REFUSE TO OUT MYSELF.

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disgruntledgradstudent7 points · 2 hours ago

Interesting. AO3 doesn’t have an API for grabbing ship stats. Do you know if they wrote their own API?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP4 points · 2 hours ago

…no? Why does that matter?

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disgruntledgradstudent2 points · 2 hours ago

BECAUSE MOST PEOPLE DON’T UNDERSTAND STATISTICS AND I’M WILLING TO BET YOU’VE GOT HUM MAJORS MASQUERADING AS MATH PEOPLE AND COMMITTING STATISTICAL VIOLENCE TO GET WHAT THEY WANT.

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HistoriansDeserveToEat6 points · 2 hours ago

THIS IS SLANDER AGAINST HUMANITIES FOLKS. Also, your STEM elitism just OOZES through this comment.

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disgruntledgradstudent-2 points · 2 hours ago

Oh, please. I spent the last month remote striking in the data management group, and tragically, I had to work under the supervision of a bunch of hums majors. You guys mistake correlation for causation and wouldn’t recognize a confidence interval even if it bit you in the ass.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP3 points · 2 hours ago

I mean… the analysis just says that I get dicked down the most. It’s not like that’s hard to prove or anything? SINCE I’M ALWAYS GETTING DICKED DOWN IN THE FICS? Bottom u/ReleaseTheKraken IS LITERALLY THE TENTH ADDITIONAL TAG UNDER ONE OF MY RELATIONSHIP TAGS.

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JohnlockIsReal2 points · 1 hour ago

That was literally the last piece I needed to go and find what fandom this is… brb.

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TheMightyPen5 points · 1 hour ago

WELL???

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JohnlockIsReal1 point · 1 hour ago

....All I’ve found is non-RPF. I was too bold in my claim. I’m so sorry–I failed you, reddit!

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quityerwhining3 points · 1 hour ago

Look, would you prefer to have reader-insert fics written about you instead? Because that’s the alternative.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP6 points · 1 hour ago

FUCK NO LEAVE ME OUT OF YOUR NASTY PORNOS. DO I LOOK LIKE YOUR DILDO?

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InnocentNotNaive3 points · 2 hours ago

YTA. Look, I wrote a semi-autobiographical series that spawned A LOT of fanfiction where I’m usually the bottom, when it’s my lover who bottoms in real life, but do I whine to the internet? Do I whine to my boy? Fuck no. I take it like a man.

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ZHANGHAIKE5 points · 2 hours ago

I take it like a man.

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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peoplescareme8 points · 2 hours ago

…was your boyfriend okay with you including private details like sexual positions in your books?

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InnocentNotNaive3 points · 2 hours ago

I didn’t include that. We weren’t even officially together when I started publishing the books. I didn’t realize I loved him until he left me on the Changbai Mountains.

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peoplescareme5 points · 2 hours ago

And then you published your books and he saw them and he came back to you?

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InnocentNotNaive2 points · 2 hours ago

…no, it was a lot more complicated than that. He left me because he had to and he came back once I eliminated the obstacles keeping us apart.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP2 points · 2 hours ago

And you’re telling me that all the fanfics don’t bother you?

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InnocentNotNaive6 points · 2 hours ago

Only when we’re written really out of character. For instance, when my boy is treated as a glorified dildo, or when I’m emotionally abusive to him (it is AMAZING what fandom will let the bottoms get away with). But by and large, they’re not that bad. Some slice-of-life fics are so well-written that I’d swear they really happened if I didn’t know better. I love it when it’s clear that the writers want him to be happy.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP11 points · 2 hours ago

WHAT I’M HEARING IS THAT YOU DON’T GET AWFUL, EYE-BLEACH WORTHY FICS WRITTEN ABOUT YOU.

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DNIDNIDNI1 point · 1 hour ago

OP I understand. Some fandoms are more crude than others and just… write more fucked up porn. NTA.

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StopTheCringe8 points · 2 hours ago

Why do you keep calling your boyfriend your “boy”?

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InnocentNotNaive7 points · 2 hours ago

Because that’s the closest translation I can get to what I really do call him.

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StopTheCringe2 points · 2 hours ago

Which is?

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InnocentNotNaive-1 point · 2 hours ago

None of your fucking business.

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notadeliveryboy2 points · 1 hour ago

It's Xiaoge. Which is totally generic and basically what you’d call your local delivery boy, but NO this idiot here just had to make it the SPECIAL name he calls his boyfriend, so the last guy who called me Xiaoge nearly got his nose broken.

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ChengXianShouldHaveBeenCanon1 point · 2 hours ago

WHO ARE YOU AND WHICH FANDOM IS THIS?

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InnocentNotNaive0 points · 2 hours ago

Wouldn’t you like to know.

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XiaoLeiIsMyNewCP2 points · 39 min ago

Found it.

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AvidReader1232 points · 1 hour ago

where does the baby come out??? Out of my dickhole????

Okay, so. It depends. What are we talking here? ABO? Egg-preg? Male carriers? Alien biology?

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Lofteruserforlife5 points · 1 hour ago

See, it’s not clear even in ABO, because I just got back from reading a fic where a male alpha who is also the top miscarries his omega’s baby. So how does that work???

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whatisbiology18 points · 1 hour ago

I’m so glad I don’t know what you’re talking about right now.

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comebacktoreality10 points · 1 hour ago

Wishful thinking.

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semprelibera6 points · 1 hour ago

That succinctly describes the whole genre.

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TossedSaladsAndScrambledEggs-5 points · 1 hour ago

It does make one wonder. I used to think these tropes were born out of a desire to see men swap places with women, but increasingly, I believe that these men are not men, but are rather women with masculine characteristics. The phenomenon certainly gives credence to Freud’s theory.

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SubvertingTropes12 points · 1 hour ago

Please kindly remove your toxic and misogynistic ass from this thread before I bring down the mods on you.

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Residenthorndog1013 points · 1 hour ago

…What I’m getting from all of this is that fanfiction is more horny than any NSFW subreddit I’ve ever stumbled across.

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makingsenseofnonsense2 points · 1 hour ago

Easy. Cesarean.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP4 points · 1 hour ago

No, I mean, HOW DOES HE GET PREGNANT?????

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DiscretionIsTheBetterPartOfFandom3 points · 1 hour ago

The mystery is part of the fun…

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ColdBrewsOverHotBrews1 point · 1 hour ago

Eh. Sometimes it’s an anal birth, or sometimes a new hole opens up just for the baby.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP2 points · 1 hour ago

STOP

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP3 points · 1 hour ago

WHAT DO THESE TERMS EVEN MEAN? AND EGGS??? WHEN WE ARE CLEARLY MAMMALS??? DID Y’ALL FAIL BIOLOGY? NO I DON’T REALLY WANT TO KNOW, BUT– WHEN YOU SAY ALIEN BIOLOGY, DO YOU MEAN CHEST BURSTERS LIKE IN ALIEN?

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AliensAndCowboys4 points · 1 hour ago

No, they mean alien biology. Like– this human-seahorse hybrid.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP2 points · 1 hour ago

I NEED YOU TO STOP TALKING.

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DiscretionIsTheWorsePartOfFandom0 points · 29 min ago

Go on…

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP0 points · 39 min ago

Here’s what REALLY drives me nuts: this insistence that I “get my head out of my ass” and start dating my boyfriend just because he’s in love with me. Not only is THAT patronizing as fuck, but

Dude.

DUDE.

Since when does someone liking you mean that you HAVE to like them back?

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IJUSTWANNABELOVED3 points · 36 min ago

So… you aren’t dating your boyfriend???

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP1 point · 29 min ago

When did I ever say that? I’m just upset that people think I HAVE to like him back, for no other reason than that he likes me. I just find this kind of thinking VERY rapey.

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veteranofthefandomwars2 points · 26 min ago

…oh boy, are you talking about the tinhatters?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP1 point · 22 min ago

??? What’s that???

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veteranofthefandomwars1 point · 18 min ago

My sweet summer child…

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IJUSTWANNABELOVED1 point · 22 min ago

…did you say that to your boyfriend?

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP0 points · 18 min ago

No, but I think he would agree?

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IJUSTWANNABELOVED1 point · 16 min ago

Yeah, but it sounds like you’re saying that his love should be unrequited.

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ReleaseTheKrakenOP3 points · 12 min ago

No– I’m simply saying that no one is entitled to having their romantic affections reciprocated. There is no moral duty to like someone back simply because they like you.

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UnconditionalLoveOrBust-3 points · 9 min ago

OP, you sound like TA.

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BoundariesBoundariesBoundaries1 point · 3 min ago

Found the incel.

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